Emotional Support-long term marriage
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Emotional Support-long term marriage
| Sat, 06-18-2005 - 1:46pm |
I have been married for 28 years and am filing for divorce. There was no abuse in our marriage- but problems surfaced in the past 1-1/2 years that my husband is not willing to work on. I have struggled with the decision to actually file for divorce and after lots of counseling and tears finally decided that it was best for me to take this step. Although the decision feels right this is a difficult time to get through. I am looking to see what others might be experiencing and what you are doing to help you move through the pain.

June, I am so sorry you must come to this. It sounds awful, and you must be in terrible pain.
what you write is wrenching. I haven't lived something similar - few of us have - but changing a lifetime habits and loves must be even harder for you.
I wish I could find the words for you.... the only thing I can say that seems to be true for all - is that it will get easier. every day. a little easier some days, or a lot.
I wish you all the best.
Hi June,
I hav been married for 15 years. My husband and i are beginning divorce proceedings. The pain for me however, was in the last 5 years or so. It was so sad then. Now i am resolved to moving on. I'm sorry that you are hurting. I understand. It does get better, it will take a good bit of time, and there are times when it's two steps back for every step forward. On my bad days the things that get me through are the kids, my job, and looking for a new place. But again, my divorce isn't as new to me as your is to you. Good luck and I look forward to reading your posts.