The end

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Registered: 12-31-2004
The end
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 5:56pm

hello everyone,

I am new to this group. Newly seperated. My marriage has been going downhill for a long time now but it finally hit the explosion. I left my job(which I loved) to come home and help him with his stupid business. I started having serious problems with depression and anxiety right afterwards but I kept pushing forward and trying. He is billigerant and verbally abusive to me. He called me a psycho bitch in front of my 17 year old son. Everything that goes wrong is my fault and everything that doesn't get done is my fault. Friday, I had enough and I kicked him out. bright idea. I have no job, no money, no support. I asked my parents (who are 73 but very active to come and be with me to give me some emotional support. I have three children who are teenagers but no girlfriends that I can count on. I am selling seems like everything I own on Ebay to pay the bills. My mom told me this morning that my sister (who lived with them with her two kids for 12 years and has had several of her own episodes) said that she didn't want them to go because she was afraid he might hurt them. ( Hello, it was ok with her that they drove from arkansas to maryland, which did not work out by the way, my father ended up in the er after a fall)
My ex is a horses butt but he is not physically abusive and he certainly wouldn't hurt my parents. I called my sister and I told her off. I don't care if I ever even talk to her again. She's never been there for me, was mean and nasty to me when I was a kid (I was 8 years younger). I just feel really alone and panicky. I don't know how I am going to get thru this. I don't want to lose my house and everything. I've got to pull myself together and go and get a job. The one that I love is no longer available. Thanks for listening,,,,

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: sunshine2u2002
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 7:54pm

even though you feel panicky stay focused. you will get through it. im glad your parents are coming. and im sorry about your sister, but in the end your life may be simpler without her being in it.

can you go back to your old job?
hang in there, youre going to get through it!
keep us posted
:)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sunshine2u2002
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 8:13pm

Welcome to the board, you'll find a ton of ideas and inspiration here. I have one thought on your financial situation, can you apply for unemployment? Even though you technically weren't fired, it's still a job loss. Also, don't count out other government services to help get you through this tough time.

Melanie

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Registered: 03-19-2005
In reply to: sunshine2u2002
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:50am
HUGS!!!! I'm in a similar situation.I left a good paying job I was at for over 6 years to move out of the country for STBX's job. After 8 years of marriage & supporting his career, I asked for a divorce knowing I will be left w/no home,alimony,or job.All I basically have are bunch of health related problems & furniture! I feel lucky that my father has a business that I will be helping out with so at least I will be able to pay the rent & support myself. I hope ebaying helps & I think the idea of getting government assistance is a good idea.Maybe you could babysit or try going to temp agency until you find something permanent.Good luck.