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| Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:12pm |
Hello, I am new to this board and to this situation. I felt it would make me feel better to vent since I have probably worn my friends ears out.
I have been married for 11 yrs, 2 girls (13y and 8y). When we first started dated, I got pregnant with my oldest when we were only dating 3 months! There was huge red flags in the beginning, so we waiting to get married until she turned 2yr. While for the most part he is a good guy, he has a terrible temper and will verbally abuse me. For the last 6 months I have really noticed a difference and he was trying but then flipped out on me a few weeks ago when I left to go out for my girlfriends b-day. In the past, I probably would have cancelled but this time I refused. He does whatever he wants, whenver he wants-which I am 100% ok with (I am no one's keeper) Then we just had the 4th of July Holiday, we had friends over and he accussed me of cheating on him with one of them! We made a liquor store run-that is all!!!! So I decided this was it, I am tired of trying to smooth things over and not being the girl I once was. He told me that I needed to get my things out by Friday, proceeded to call me a whore in front of my 8yr!!!! I said if that is what you want, fine but I refuse to leave. We own a house together. This is a huge problem b/c we built this house in a brand new neighborhood and with the market the way it is there is no way we could sell it and get what we owe. At this point I feel like I dont care about it and let it get foreclosed on. He called me at work today, saying he doesnt want to lose me, me and our marriage mean the world to him, blah blah blah. I truly do feel sorry for him but I have for many years tried to warn him, that the person I have become with him is not me and one day I will snap and it will be too late for him. I honestly think I am there. I have looked into rentals and am trying to pick a lawyer. I am such a logical fair person but this situation scares me to death!
Sorry to go on and on...but there is just so much going on in my mind!!!
Thanks for listening~
Shannon

hi, shannon!