To everyone, stay strong-
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| Wed, 09-13-2006 - 7:50pm |
Don't back down from the fights that are worth fighting. Dont let fear keep you from standing up for yourself. In the long run, justice WILL prevail.
My ex owed me alot of money. He always thought he was invinceable. He manipulated situations and people to benefit him. Well, after many years of fighting, and a very large debt, he was finally made to be accountable. He was hauled off to jail. Was I happy to see that? Honestly,no. But after the shock of it wore off, I did feel vindicated. He will finally have to pay me what he was court ordered to pay me for my children. I've been financially in trouble (due to bills and growing kids (clothes, food) and fees) for a while now. he's not paid a dime and thought telling me "You'll get it when I get it" was good enough.
he walked into court acting arrogant. He figured he'd agree to a payment plan and walk out--and never pay thereby avoiding jail yet again. Well, he was shocked when the judge ordered him to jail. He was ticked off. Angry at me-as if it's my fault. I had nothing to do with it. The judge ordered him and he CHOOSE to not pay.
I waited to pursue anything because I was afraid. Afraid he'll get mad at me and do God knows what to me and/or my kids. Afraid, honestly, that he would end up jailed--then what? I did this on my own without an attorney and that scared me (i couldnt' get an attorney because of lack of money).
I hope he has finally realized that I am no longer afraid of him. I am no longer his doormat. I am no longer willing or able to be manipulated by him.
Don't back down because of your fears. sooner or later the karma train WILL meet up with them and when it does, it wont be pretty (for them). And you can then sit back and know that you did everything you possibly could do to stand up for yourself.
If they are not obeying the court orders, file right away. Don't wait....

Eventually... it does catch up with em
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Great advice! I'm so glad it worked out in your favor and your ex was knocked down a couple of pegs. My ex owes me several hundred dollars because he refuses to follow the court order and pay 50% of all medical copays, after-school activity fees, and summer camp expenses. And he thinks because of our custody arrangement, he shouldn't have to pay any child support. Yeah, right. So I can chase him down for months for our DS's expenses??? Sorry for the rant! My ex basically authored the divorce decree, signed it, and it's STILL not good enough for him. Perhaps more court action is in order! You've got me thinking...