EX didn't show up!...or call! Dang him!

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EX didn't show up!...or call! Dang him!
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 1:46pm

The "conference" was today with DD's teacher.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 2:10pm

Sounds like you handled the situation well. Congrats.

Laura

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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:44pm

Karen,

First off, am just completely floored by your ex... but then again, that could be why he's your ex...

Secondly, it sounds like the meeting went well, albeit, four on one... Keep us posted on how things progress...

*hugs*

Julie

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 10:51am
Can you imagine if one of us Moms didn't show up?? They can get away with it because we're there to pick up the pieces and handle everything.
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:49pm

oh karen.... you are such an awesome mom!! phooey to all those stupid, mindless, lazy SOB ex-Hs out there, who can't be bothered to show an interest in their children.

good for you to telling that teacher off , for standing up to her in such a logical way.

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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 2:45pm

Thanks for the kudos!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 9:23am

Your whole story has me really steamed 'cause I'm a teacher (and a parent). My kids also have hours of stupid, vapid "work" to complete in order to "learn to manage their time". Also, all the projects bug me- they are so elaborate and need lots of parent involvement. Do your kids have these too? Visitation issues intrude and complicalte completion of these projects (last time both the ex and I bought the materials because we each thought we had to do the project...). You have taught your daughter several important things by resonding to her situation- that you are there to help when she needs you, that you value her education, that when something is wrong a person must stand up for what they think is right, and that teachers and school systems sometimes make mistakes too.

Laura

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 11:25am

Thanks for the vote of confidence!... I'm not so sure this battle is over, but I'm giving the teacher an opportunity to make things right.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 3:38pm
Is it possible that your daughter may be anal about her school work because other things in her life may be out of control? Before I was a teacher I was a child psychologist, so please don't be offended by my interest- I find kids facinating. Does she exert control over eating also? Many children who feel that they need to be "perfect" develop eating problems later in life (or at your daughters age). The funny thing is, this need to be "perfect" is not caused by the parents- it seems to be ingrained in some children- and some parents report this type of behavior from very early on (toddler!). Sometimes I think girls are such complex creatures and much more difficult to raise than boys. Your magnet school sounds interesting. The whole language approach to teaching (the type of learning you are describing)is now out of favor, but I think it can be really fun and instructive. I wish the schools here had more imagination (they are rated #3 in the state!)and less busy work. Oh well, we're moving anyway. Good luck with your "mission".
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Fri, 02-24-2006 - 5:26pm

No offense... in fact, that is why I was so quick to get her in counseling in the 3rd grade--she had a great teacher, but this woman constantly pushed and challenged her... too much, ya know.... you can do that too much.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~