Ex hates new man in my life.....
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Ex hates new man in my life.....
| Thu, 10-12-2006 - 3:54pm |
My ex hates the new man in my life. I have not introduced my children to him yet. They don't even know that I am dating yet, but my X says he will never let the kids near the new guy. He can't do that, right? This new man is wonderful and a great person, but my X won't hear any of that.... I just need HELP!!!!
Also, when is the right time to tell the children about the new man in mommy's life? My kids are 8 and 6.
Thanks!!
Kate

Hello Kate,
I have a couple of questions.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Hi Kate.... it's really not up to him!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Ya know, after I typed that I was sitting here going..... "where did I pull that from????"
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
When my bf introduced me to his kids it was a little over a year & a half after we started dating. #1 rule in our relationship was that the kids don't meet me unless we are serious. Both of us were coming out of long term relationships (him a marriage) so we were slow with dating to be sure it was right. Kids should not meet someone you are just "dating". Does that mean its a pain because you can't have him over on kid nights? Yup. In my case bf has 100% custody rights...ex has no visitation unless he agrees...even more of a pain. I couldn't come over at all basically.
I was introduced as "dads friend". No kissing, hugging, hand holding, etc until kids got to know me and love me...which they do now. :-) We still don't (and won't) do overnights with kids around. Not an option. Now, I am starting the journey into "dads girlfriend" and they are taking to it much easier. The kids are now 12-17 & all of them have really attached to me.
It was hard, but looking back I wouldn't have done it any other way!
Autumn
I have to say that it's wonderful to see the posts from people who are putting their love lives on the back burner for the sake of their children! My daughters have no idea that I'm dating and when they are with me, they know that they are my #1 priority. They know I have a live away from them, but I have a life with them as well.
I'm only 40ish. These girls are really only going to be with me for about 10 more years anyway. I can wait until then, even though I'd love to marry my sweetie so that they could have a decent marriage to watch.
I understand all the points about showing them how to date, but my choice is to not date with my kids. They're only 7 and 11. I don't think they're old enough to date!
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie