ex-husband suing for full custody

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Registered: 03-14-2007
ex-husband suing for full custody
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 2:17am
My ex husband a year ago finally took me to court to get visitation of our daughter. He hadn't seen her in 7 years, due to the court ordering no contact between them. I was nice because my daughter wanted to start seeing him and we filed an agreement enery into the court. A couple monthes later I was served with papers suing me for custody. My daughter has lived me all her life and he hadn't been around until recently.
I'm really worried he may win, but I also know they have no reason to remove her from my care.
If anyone could give me an idea of what may happen or if its common for a man to come back into a childs life for a year as a chance to win custody.
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Registered: 03-14-2007
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 2:40am
i don't think it matters
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Registered: 10-25-2006
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 7:51am

Stark,


Consult your attorney for help with this. Your Ex

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 4:00pm
Sweety, this is complete b.s. First of all the only reason the courts will give him full custody is if you are a drugee, alcoholic, neglecting/unfit or child abusing mother. My ex husband tried to do this to me too in the beginning of our divorce only because he didn't want to pay child support. But of course he lost. If the child has been primarily in your care for most of the child's life, the MOST visitation he will get is 50/50. But the norm is 80(you)/20(him). That's what my ex and I have. My son lives with me but my ex gets him twice a week from after school until 8pm then my son comes home then ex gets him alternate weekends. It was important for me to have my son spend the night in the same bed on weeknights to give him stability during the crazy divorce. I didn't want him going from bed to bed. I don't think it's healthy during a crazy time like that, they need that stability. And it's not unreasonable! Most of the people I know who have divorced did the same 80/20 visitation schedule I had and it has worked out great for them as well. So don't worry about it. Like I said, unless you are any of those things I've mentioned in the 2nd sentence of this reply, then you are going to be fine. He can fight for full custody until the cows come home but doesn't mean he'll get it. Men are lame. Keep us posted.