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ex is a loser!
| Sun, 02-19-2006 - 2:17pm |
im currently in the process of divorcing my husband of two years. I am 21 with a little girl who is two years old, He is 26 and still to this day cant hold down a decent job. let alone a Job.lol. He is a very controlling a possesive and extremely jealous person. He wouldnt let me get a job while we was together and he wouldnt get a job because he said he wanted to watch our daughter go, from the first month that we were in our own apt we were already borrowing money to pay rent and live. When my baby was born we didnt even have diapers for her, we had to have his cousin buy us all the things our child needed. Things only got worse from then on in, we moved into another apt, and after months of him not havin a job again i told him if he didnt have a job by the next week i was taking the baby and leaving, he got a job and two months later got fired because he was installing snoopware on our computer from his computer at work. we got evicted from that apt because we couldnt afford the rent. He wouldnt help around the house, when i would clean it was according to him because my boyfriend came over. We ended up living with his sister and her daughter in his aunts house in a one bedroom apt. that was the final straw I packed my things and took my baby and left, havent been back since this was in Junw. now we are at each others throat, with orders of protection for the constant threat he gives me how if i ever left him he would kill me and my whole family, he hasnt paid child support since jan 12 and still thinks he has rights, he doesnt do anything for out child all he does on his visitation day is take her shoppign and bring her home early thats it, he doesnt want to spend time with her only what he has too. now he says im the one threathing him and his family and hes worried, now im 5'2'' 135lbs he is 6'0'' 270 lbs who really should be worried bout getting hurt! help me i need some insight on what to do

Hi...
I'm sorry you're in the situation you're in right now... the animosity between you and your stbx is not healthy for you or your daughter... and the situations sound complex for a number of reasons...
Since the threats are there, my first piece of advice would be to contact a Domestic Violence/women's shelter in your area for assistance... if you cannot do that, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 ... as they may be able to provide some help, support and assistance with your situation.
Keeping you in my prayers... keep us posted!
*hugs*
Julie
Hello and Welcome!
I agree with Julie.... you need to contact the local domestic violence/women's shelter to see if they can offer some assistance.
Try to distance yourself from him... and when you have to communicate, try not to let him push you into an argument.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~