Ex is mad I have a man in my life
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Ex is mad I have a man in my life
| Sun, 09-25-2005 - 5:56pm |
I been separated 3 years, the divorce was final end of July. I have been in this house we bought together 6 years ago. with my 18 year old son, that is here to take care of me. Both ex and I names are on the house. I want to stay here at least 1- 3 years,, as said on the divorce papers or I can sell when I want if he agrees.. But he isn't understanding If HE wants to sell, I would have to say yes, but I say NO WAY not now, so he said he will take me to court to sell. I said it wont work. He has no money. its a, me 60%/40% ex. of the profit when we do sell. I am on SSI and cannot work. So pulling in only a total of $600 a month is what I live on. I cant sell yet I wont qualify on another house.
Anyway he is mad I have a man in my life, He thought he was getting me back as love,, again,, no way.. But we talk. friends for we both can be at My boys wedding in the future.
My question is, What is his rights, on this property since he hasn't been living here 3 years. He hasn't fixed what he was to fix as in the papers he was to hold up his end. He makes money off me in the long run. I pay the mortgage alone.. . but the house is almost paid for. Paid low, sell very high. He lives in a small trailer his grammother willed to him. worth only $8000 in an old folk home.. and lives with my 20 year old son in a one bedroom. He wants to sell that and this to get his own place, but at this time in 1-3 years the loan here will be so low I'll be coming out with 50,000 after selling. and that's what I need ,he works, I dont. I couldn't get a monthly 100+ out of him for support so I took the investment in the house.
But if I was to have my boyfriend here. Can he legally do anything to this property? since his name is still on the deed? I cant by him out. He has no key. But Like I told him. I will call the police again if he tried anything stupid. I had him arrested on domestic violence 3 years ago, after 16 years of him beaten me up cuz of him drinking. To this day he says it wasn't that bad, but thats as an alcoholic. What do I do to make him understand that Its time to move on, I dont want to loose this new man, he excepts me being sick, having a hearing aid, never being able to work, and I been threw men that are pretty much jerks .
But I want my life too. Ex dont need to stay in it and I cant keep him out as long as I live here? Should I sell? Or is there laws and things to keep him away that way. But I want to be friends,, but I told him He pushes me to sell,, I will NEVER Talk to him ever again. He doesn't like that. I an do that.I need to make a few bucks to keep ahead,, cuzz he wont help my son cant help, and If i was to make a few bucks,, I get my money shut down,, No one wants to hire a person with artherits and all other medical problems.. even for 4 hours a few times a week. I am stuck.
Anyway he is mad I have a man in my life, He thought he was getting me back as love,, again,, no way.. But we talk. friends for we both can be at My boys wedding in the future.
My question is, What is his rights, on this property since he hasn't been living here 3 years. He hasn't fixed what he was to fix as in the papers he was to hold up his end. He makes money off me in the long run. I pay the mortgage alone.. . but the house is almost paid for. Paid low, sell very high. He lives in a small trailer his grammother willed to him. worth only $8000 in an old folk home.. and lives with my 20 year old son in a one bedroom. He wants to sell that and this to get his own place, but at this time in 1-3 years the loan here will be so low I'll be coming out with 50,000 after selling. and that's what I need ,he works, I dont. I couldn't get a monthly 100+ out of him for support so I took the investment in the house.
But if I was to have my boyfriend here. Can he legally do anything to this property? since his name is still on the deed? I cant by him out. He has no key. But Like I told him. I will call the police again if he tried anything stupid. I had him arrested on domestic violence 3 years ago, after 16 years of him beaten me up cuz of him drinking. To this day he says it wasn't that bad, but thats as an alcoholic. What do I do to make him understand that Its time to move on, I dont want to loose this new man, he excepts me being sick, having a hearing aid, never being able to work, and I been threw men that are pretty much jerks .
But I want my life too. Ex dont need to stay in it and I cant keep him out as long as I live here? Should I sell? Or is there laws and things to keep him away that way. But I want to be friends,, but I told him He pushes me to sell,, I will NEVER Talk to him ever again. He doesn't like that. I an do that.I need to make a few bucks to keep ahead,, cuzz he wont help my son cant help, and If i was to make a few bucks,, I get my money shut down,, No one wants to hire a person with artherits and all other medical problems.. even for 4 hours a few times a week. I am stuck.

I am sorry - i really don't have an answer for you. this is a legal question and you would be best asking a lawyer (i know, it costs money - but at least you will have the correct answer and not a guess)
all i can tell you is that *I*personally would prefer not to have ANY ties to my ex (especially if he has a history of violence as you say). in fact, when i got divorced the first time i ended up losing alot of money because we ahd to sell the house that we bought as neither of us could pay the mortgage.