Ex making inappropriate comments

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Ex making inappropriate comments
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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 9:25pm
I went to an event to pick up my son this morning, where ex and new wife were present. I was there for about 5 minutes, my son approached me and said "Daddy said he wants you to leave...NOW". Regardless of how he feels about my presence I think it was wrong for him to send the message through a 9 yr old. I'm pissed. I want to say something, but what?
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Registered: 08-17-2001
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 9:55pm

You're right! Your son shouldn't be a go-between/messenger for you and your XH. If you have a decent relationship with him, I think it's worth saying something. Exactly what you say will depend on what kind of a relationship you have with your XH. With mine, I'm just blunt with him. "Hey, next time you've got something to say to me, you need to just be an adult and tell ME, rather than relying on Rosie to tell me. She's a kid and should continue to be so until she's an adult."

And why did he want you to leave, anyway? Didn't you have a right to be there???

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 7:37am

Hi Glassfull,


No, your Ex has no business using your child as a messenger! What that teaches your child is that it's OK to talk to Mommy like that. It's not! Sounds like you need to confront and resolve with your Ex. Tell him you won't allow him to use

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 08-26-2006
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 12:45pm

they seem to be getting more difficult to read.

everyone else's are so easy....