Ex wants to introduce GF/OW - help?

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Ex wants to introduce GF/OW - help?
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Sat, 03-12-2005 - 5:53pm

When my STBX started an affair in late December, it was the straw that broke the camel's back.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 7:01pm
I do agree with you, and I have also been dealt worse than my 9 year unhappy marriage, including (but not limited to) the death of my father when I was 11, being taken for $20k by a con-artist boyfriend at age 19, and being diagnosed with a painful chronic illness at age 32. I had an affair too, so I do see your side of things. But the reason you might not get unbiased support of your position is that this is a support board for people having a hard time getting through divorce, and although I think I remember you are going through a divorce yourself, you are dealing with a wonderful future with a man you love. Many here are trying to cope with the loss of a husband, a marriage, their dreams, their lives as they know it and want it, and sometimes pretty tough financial issues. Even though I had an affair, I am able to be sympathetic to someone who is dealing with having an OW involved in their children's lives. It's great to be the bigger person, but sometimes it's really hard too. I think it's a lot to ask a person who's been cheated on to "get" your position right now.

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Registered: 10-28-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:05pm

Yup, Yup First 'gree with you there!!

Us simpletons who work at the local five and dime and been done had the dirty deed done to us we -aren't lawya's and 'countants but we them thar know when we been surely screwed.

Thanks for 'stickin up for 'yus!!!

Yup you and Dallas are the bigger 'uns.




Edited 3/21/2005 10:06 pm ET ET by ivbeenaroundthebl
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:21pm

>>>Yup, Yup First 'gree with you there!! Us simpletons who work at the local five and dime and been done had the dirty deed done to us we -aren't lawya's and 'countants but we them thar know when we been surely screwed. Thanks for 'stickin up for 'yus!!! Yup you and Dallas are the bigger 'uns.<<<

I was not trying to insult anyone's intelligence and I am sorry you took my post that way. I was just trying to say that when you are going through the process of divorce and especially when you've been cheated on and you see your ex moving on while you are stuck picking up the pieces (and all the unfairness that goes along with that), it's not so easy to just be okay with the OW in your life period - no matter who you are. I am not trying to make anyone out to be the bad guy, and I most *certainly* did not imply that the ability to make it through the emotional roller coaster of divorce is a reflection of one's education level.

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