EX WIFE WANTS TOO MUCH $$$
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EX WIFE WANTS TOO MUCH $$$
| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 7:35pm |
My friend (guy friend, not boyfriend) was married to this gal for a year and a half (he's 34 and she's 37). They were together for a total of 3 years. He now wants a divorce (because she's a crazy jealous woman with 3 uncontrollable kids from her previous marriages - she's been married twice before, this is her third.) Anywho, she wants either $2000 cash from him to sign the divorce papers OR she wants $400 a month from him for spousal support for half the length of the time they were married (so I guess 8 months). We all think this is RIDICULOUS and that he shouldn't really have to pay her anything. She is currently working part time (although her lazy butt is capable of working FULL time) but she is just so used to living off her other ex husband's child support to her 3 kids that she wants to do the same to my friend and he's not down with that. She also wants him to pay half her attorney's fees even though he told her he didn't want to get attorney's, that he just wanted to settle out of court so she can hurry and sign the papers, get em filed and move on with his life. What do you guys think? Do you think she is entitled to that money or what is a good settlement for her? By the way, he let her have everything in the house. Their condo was in his Dad's name so my friend keeps the house. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK???? Do you think she should get that money or should he fight it? We want a 3rd party opinion.

Has he already filed? If she is willing to let it go as a default divorce (whatever he files for he gets) for $2000, then it might be worth his sanity to take her up on the deal.
Just a thought.
M.
I'd say he needs to see an attorney immediately. I don't know what state you're in, but in many they would have had to be married longer than that for her to be entitled to alimony. Also, I'd be very careful about the $2000 she is asking for. If he doesn't get something in writing that that is all she wants monetarily then there's nothing stopping her from asking for more later.
Even though he doesn't want to involve attorneys, I think he at least needs to consult with one to see what his rights are.
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OMG! My ex-wife got married and never told me? Oh wait a minute, this isn't her, it just sounds like her.
She does not have a leg to stand on. Based on the duration of the marriage, there will not be any spousal supoprt, or it will be minimal. Asset and debt division will be based on the duration of the marriage.
It sounds like she's a big enough pain in the butt that this one is best settled as quickly a possible in the interest of minimizing legal fees. I'd total up the amount that she's looking for, and compare it with the very likely cost of a protracted legal battle (which she would ultimately lose, but hubby would pay a lot of lawyer money in the process).
So, compute the value of a one time cash outlay of what she's asking for. And then make offer based on what's fair. And do it in writing. Do not agree to periodic payments.
If it goes to court, immediately request arbitration (making sure you present your previous offer). This establishes HIS good faith efforts to resolve this fairly.
Again, the point here is to minimize legal fees, because that's where the majority of the money will go.
In the mean time, if he's left the residence, he should make a call to the local Children's Services and question her parenting. This will present a sizable distraction to the divorce proceedings.
Sadly, he will have to to pay to get rid of the craziness in his life. Thats a fact. All you can do is reduce the amount.
I don't know that she would be entitled to spousal support having only been married for one year it may be too short of a marriage to be considered for spousal support in that amount.
I wouldn't pay her it. I wouldn't pay for her attorney either. Her kids from a previous relationship are not his concern, she gets child support for them correct? So if he's giving her the condo out right yeah I think she's getting plenty for only being married for a year.
I would have him hire an attorney.
Smile,
Deirdre
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