An excerpt from a great book......
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An excerpt from a great book......
| Sat, 04-16-2005 - 4:52pm |
I am reading a great book called Ex Etiquette for Parents Good behavior afer a divorce or separation. I have A LOT of great excerpts but this one caught my eye. I know a lot of us are dealing with the pain of infidelity.
This book does a lot of question answer.
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I am a big fan of that book. It doesn't address how to deal with a toxic ex, but it gives a ton of useful information on what co-parenting is and how to work towards that. There is a board here where one of the authors of that book is a contributor if anyone is interested: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psbonusfam and the authors also have a website at: http://bonusfamily.com/
THanks! I LOVE this book...... I have found some really great ways to deal with my ex. Most of them have worked.....
Now if I could only find a way to make him stop spending his money on "crap" and start paying child support, we would be all set....LOL... just kidding.... sort of. ;)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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Even those of us who aren't parents can take something from this. And I think it's true... I don't feel as bad when I'm not badmouthing OW as when I did. So maybe I'm making some progress. Tolerance I can aim for and hopefully achieve.
VERY well said and proof that things like this work!
I agree, I don't feel so bad about my situation when I don't involve myself with her. ( thinking talking or otherwise )
"Each time you use such negative language, it reinforces your pain and anger- and it also keeps you in a defensive or reactive state. You can't move past the pain when you are stuch in a defensive mode, asking yourself, 'what's wrong with me?'"
That's the point I have been trying to get across to some of the people on this board. Just bashing your spouse in order to get "support" is not the way to start the healing process. Yes, my advice may be sometimes harsh, but at least it's honest...
Understood and the reason I posted this.
Thank you for your honest posts..... wording is key though :)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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