Ex's updates still upset me ...

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Ex's updates still upset me ...
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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 3:59pm

... Just when I am over the moon to have my boys with me for the summer, my ex says something to set me off. Brief background, ex has had PC of twin DSs since our divorce was final last May. I live out of the state wherein which they live.

Despite me emailing ex the boys' summer schedule, including when I'd be returning them, ex still insists on *forgetting* the schedule. So, he informs me that he really needs to know because *he* or more like *we're* going to Africa ... Africa?!! This is an ex who seldom took me or our family on vacation anywhere because he was either drinking, hanging out with single friends or on golf trips with single friends every other weekend?! NOW, he has the luxury of taking his yet, probably GF #3 on a trip to Africa?! What about his own sons? They are at an age where they would definitely enjoy the trip. He's just soo selfish!

Then, when I share my frustration with my friend, she makes matters worse by asking is ex taking his GF, and I said *probably*, and then she says, "that's an amazing trip, wow, what a trip, how exciting" in this tone that he's this great guy taking *her* on the trip. Ahhh, I don't know why it gets to me, guess because he never did things like this with me and the boys, now, he's off doing them with someone else. Or, that one day when he remarries, he'll be off planning family trips with his new wife and my sons. I'll feel replaced & invisible, while he has this great happy family. Uh, it's just not fair. Not having a good day.

Yet, I need to regroup & focus on having a great summer with my bunchkins. They are overjoyed to be here. I just wish ex wouldn't feel the need to *get to me*. I absolutely do NOT call him unless it's about the boys. And I'd never throw something like that in his face. He just remains so controlling and hateful, it's nuts. He's even trying to bark orders for the boys, being 800 miles away?! And in return, the boys are all *jumpy* about doing exactly what their father says at any minute, like my word or my instructions are secondary.

We have a lot to work on; wish me luck. Just needed to vent (thanx!) ...

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Registered: 06-02-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:27am

Hi there write_girlie,


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 3:30pm

I know it's hard not to get jealous.