extolling my virtues

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Registered: 06-06-2008
extolling my virtues
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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 7:08pm

Just an update on unbelievably stupid situation. I mentioned in an earlier post that STBX and I had come to a tenuous settlement. I typed it up when I got home and emailed it to him. At this point he has heard from his lawyer saying my lawyer and I would accept arbitration.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 07-06-2008 - 6:12am

Daisy,


Hi. I've been following your threads. I'm glad you found us here and I hope you find support.


Here's my thoughts.


First, STOP reacting to your STBX. Don't talk to him, email him, or try to "reason" with him. He's engaging in a game called "After all I've done for you." It simply means no matter what you say or do, he'll turn the blame back on you for his unhappiness. And therein lies HIS problem: he can't take responsibility for his own happiness and he's being manipulated by his attorney like the fool he is.


So, stop worrying about HIS legal bills. If he wants to allow his lawyer to use him like a fool; let 'em. (Incidentally, he's showing a pattern here;

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 12:35pm

I'm sorry things aren't working out.


I just wanted to add to your list of idiot statements.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-07-2008 - 7:18pm

Daisymae.........are your STBX and my STBX brothers???

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Registered: 06-06-2008
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 8:37am

I guess maybe all men become the little boy they once were at a certain age. It hurts so much that for 30 years we never had the money to do or buy things I wanted-after STBX got everything he wanted-but no expense is too great now to get me out of his life. On top of that all his expenses are my fault because I'm not "playing the game by his rules". To have worked as hard as I did to reach retirement and not be able to enjoy that is a crock.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 8:59am

Just remember all the stuff he says is ways to manipulate you.....to push your buttons.