Father's day without the father
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| Sat, 06-18-2005 - 12:35am |
An update of my life. My husband has not contacted us for a few weeks. I have been busy dealing with what is in front of me, and since I don't really miss him, I forgot the fact that kids have not heard from him for 2 weeks neither ... I am personally happy that I don't have to hear/read him naming me all kinds of things, but my daycare lady asked me if there is something wrong with the relationsihp between kids and my husband.
They did not want to make a Father's day card at daycare today. They don't cry for him anymore either. But I know all of them love him dearly from the bottom of their heart. They were so much in love with him.
I have explained to them that it has nothing to deal with them, and daddy loves them very much (I do know he does, even though he puts himself first). I told them he is not calling here because mommy and daddy do not get along. Today was the payday for both of us, and off course I have not received a penny from him.
To be honest, our relationship has been long gone. I give my husband a credit that he stayed in this relationship this long because he knew kids and I needed to depend on him. Even though our relationship has been a pure hell, I can at least say he tried his best to be a best dad in the whole world. Even though he can be such a pain, the one thing I gave credit to him was his love for his kids.
So, for him to stop contacting kids all of a sudden, I just know it has to be another woman. Because he can never deal with him being wrong, I know he is avoiding the reality by blocking us out of his way. But he should know that is not necessary!!! Unfortunately or fortunately, both of our love ceased long time ago. We have talked about divorce millions of times including starting a new relationship, monetary support, custody, etc. I have already talked to kids that mommy and daddy are not going to live together, but daddy will always be their daddy, and mommy will always be their mommy,which made sense to them because they KNOW mommy and daddy don't get along, but both of us dearly love them.
Least to say, this is not how our devorce was supposed to proceed. How moody he is...
| Sat, 06-18-2005 - 10:06am |

| Mon, 06-20-2005 - 9:09am |
