Feeling pretty low

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Registered: 06-18-2006
Feeling pretty low
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:47pm
My H of 20 years asked me for a divorce on my birthday two weeks ago. I am still reeling. I have already been served with paperwork. I moved to the east coast with him after my youngest left home. So I am far away from friends and family, feeling pretty alone. I go from anger to tears in seconds and am not handling this very well. This is the first time I have ever posted to a board, but after reading what other women are going through this may be the support I need. I am trying not to have a knee-jerk reaction and do something really stupid. He said he has not been in love with me for years, my surprise. I know things have been rough and I have begged to go to counseling to try to get our relationship back. He always gave me a song and dance. I do not know what to do. So I think someone to write to would be nice. I feel like such a loser. How do I survive?
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: be252
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:10pm
First of all, YOU are not the loser. YOU did not ask someone for a divorce on their birthday. Talk about horrible! I wish I could say something that would just make it magically better for you but this is a process we all have to go through. What can help is finding a support group (many churches have them) or at least get out and start finding friends you can do stuff with. Volunteer, join a club, or anything that will help you begin a life about YOU. If you need counseling, get it. Just be sure you are taking care of yourself first. You will be on a roller coaster ride for a while so just be patient with yourself. I am sorry you are going through this. Please come back and share as often as you need.
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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: be252
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:41pm

HUGS! I am so sorry your H asked you for a divorce on your birthday. That is absolutely cruel and tactless.


I wish I had some magic words to make you understand that you'll be fine. All I can tell you is there are many ladies here that are divorced and have gone through the same feeling that you have - shock, sadness,