Feeling stuck

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Feeling stuck
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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 3:56pm

Although there are many things in my life that are much better now that the divorce is on the way, I am having trouble still.

I can't get my act together. Trying to juggle everything alone leaves me in a state of feeling like I can never keep up. I don't remember if I posted about this or not, but back in May I was so overwhlemed with everything that I quit my job. I've been living off the loan money I got for fixing up the house. (I did do all the work needed, but I'm draining what's left.)

My exact situation is this: I have a house that is paid for except for the new loan which is about $1000 a month. My kids start school tomorrow, but my daughter will only be going for half days because she's in Kindergarten. My ex and his skank have no car to help in picking up DD because this past weekend said skank totalled the car. I only get $250 a month in child support and cannot afford child care.

I'm just lost. I will be getting a new job pretty quickly because I was irresponsible for quitting in the first place, but I keep wishing there was something I could do to go back and finish school so I could get a job that would really take care of us.

I know many of you have had to overcome similar problems. I would greatly appreciate any feedback or advice, even if it's simply a kick in the behind for quitting my job.

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Registered: 01-31-2005
In reply to: gwen227
Mon, 09-04-2006 - 4:02pm
You CAN do it!! I just started back to school taking online courses. I spend about an hour every evening fter the kids go to bed. It does take some self discipline, but it is great. I feel like I am doing something to make it better for myself and my kids. Plus once you finish you won't have to rely on the ex so much! Hang in there, once you get back to work and get into a routine it will be easier for you!!
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: gwen227
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:09pm

its always possible. don't give up and don't fall into depression.

I live in a different country where its really hard to afford a university education (even tho its cheaper than in the US but our salaries are so much lower too). also they are not as 'generous' here with accepting credits for other studies. anyway, the point is that you have to make a decision. you can do what i am doing - take a job, any job, that will give you enuf flexibility to go to school, and go to school. you will have to do your HW and reading on weekends and nights but you can do it. you will have to tighten your belt, so to speak, for a few years - you wn't be able to afford everything you want, but - in the end it is worth it. even going part time, it won't take you that long. at the same time - see if you can find a job - like an associate position - at something that you plan to go to school for anyway (like a parlegal if you want to study law, or a an EMT if you want to study medicine and so on).

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Registered: 12-16-2004
In reply to: gwen227
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 4:49pm

Ask your children friends parents if any one if a stay at home mom and could take care of your children for only food money and explain you are newly divorced, there is always a helping hand out there.


I live in country where it easy to live even if you are divorced, our government take care of us and childcare cheap but I have still been kid sitting for