Feeling Stuck.....[it's a long one]

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Feeling Stuck.....[it's a long one]
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 8:34pm

Lately I've been feeling "stuck" and a bit confused......


D-day was 2 years ago...my divorce was final 10/14/04 so just

Hugs~ Lexi

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown


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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 9:31pm

((((hugs)))) see my post to you on bssg...


Deb

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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 10:21pm

((((huge hugs))))

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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 10:52pm

Thanks for your reply!


Unfortunately where I live condo's are costing just as much as houses!

Hugs~ Lexi

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown


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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 5:58pm

I agree with moving closer to relatives. I can say in my situation, I couldn't have made it without the support of my parents and brother and his family. Not to mention, the relief of the stress of owning and maintaining your house. Everybody encouraged me to try to keep our house and stay with the kids but I knew, personally, that I couldn't handle the work and that I wouldn't enjoy my life or my kids as much. So now I rent which is not the best financial decision, I know, but I have no stress, no repairs, no upkeep other than weekly cleaning, and I have more time to be with my kids and enjoy just being their mom.

Just my 2 cents. Good luck to you!

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Mon, 11-14-2005 - 11:19pm

Update:


I wasn't planning on "rocking the boat" so to speak yet w/the x regarding my possible move but he called today to inform me that he may be moving in w/his gf in January.

Hugs~ Lexi

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown


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Mon, 11-14-2005 - 11:36pm

You need to do what you feel is best for you and your son. If you're happy and less stressed, he will be too. It will all work out in the long run. I am glad you discussed this now with your ex though. Keep things out in the open. I told my ex "I'm thinking about moving to Colorado". He goes "well, I'll miss you guys, but if that's what you want to do...."....nothing like fighting me to keep his kids here huh??


And I'm sure your ex will work out visitation with you. Maybe you can share it--you drop him off to ex on Friday nites, he brings them home on Sunday nites. Or meet 1/2 way. 2 hours is NOT a long distance away (in my opinion).


As for him moving in with gf....blah to them! they deserve each other-don't you ever forget that. I still don't think they'll make it for the long run though. Once they live together--that's reality now. They will tire of the daily crap that's always there.


Keep your chin up! You're doing a fantastic job!! You deserve so much better than what he gave you!


HUGE hugs


Deb


(Now, go real estate hunting and research for the next few months!!! That will be FUN!!)

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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 6:52pm
Yes... you do deserve to be happy... and now that things are out in

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 9:44pm

Hey there Lexi...

Just wanted to send my congrats for having the conversation that you really needed to have with x... I'm glad things are out (one less thing to worry about) so that you can start thinking of things in a whole new light!

*hugs*

Julie