Female Vs. Male Lawyer
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Female Vs. Male Lawyer
| Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:41am |
Hello
I will be interviewing divorce lawyers and was wondering being a female should I pursue a female lawyer or a male lawyer. Do you think either sex is stronger in defending their client. For instance, if a woman is seeking a lawyer is it best to seek a female as well as she may defend someone of the same sex stronger.
Not sure if this makes sense or matters, but I thought I would throw it out there.
Thanks.

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Amy,
I live in the Chicago area. The group I worked with is called the Lilac Tree (thelilactree.org). I don't know if there are similar organizations anywhere else, but I found them extremely helpful. Keep your eyes open because you never know where you can find resources. I actually learned about the Lilac Tree through a technology organization I belong to. Anyway, good luck to you! Stay strong and know that we are here for you.
Carole
AAW-that stinks! So where do you live-is it a community property state too? I don't understand that-why one person automatically gets half of all of the marital property regardless of who earned it. In my case, I supported him the majority of the time, but was left with nothing due to constantly having to bail him out of financial messes. (sigh!) I just decided after almost 10 years, I'd had enough of it.
So, how is your daughter taking it? Is she acting out the way mine has been? Poor thing!
Amy
Hi Amy:
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. Mine is actually taking it very well and her behaviour has improved since STBX left. He had anger issues and we had dramatically different styles of parenting. Since he left the negative energy is gone from the house and she is not pulled between the differenting parenting styles.
I actually live in an equity state (Wyoming). He did not get half of everything but got a huge chunk of the house (which I purchased prior to marriage). I kills me these guys get anything. But I have to say, as time has passed my anger is going away (o.k. not gone completely). I am much happier without him and I know in time I will recover financially.
I read a good book called Mom's house, Dad's house. It helped me see how getting along with STBX is really important for DD. He see's her often and I really think that has helped alot with the transition. She does still act out. What I have found is usually the root cause is something totally unrelated to what she is acting out about. And if I stay calm and can get to what is really bothering her it really helps. But I get the "your a mean mom" sometimes too. Stay, strong and calm.
Thanks. I think the main reason I'm getting this is because she hasn't seen him for 2 months and she misses him a LOT. My situation was-I had a relative who was helping me financially and emotionally. She lived in a different state. So she brought me to stay with her because I was having so much stress due to the death of my stepmother and the marital problems. I didn't even know what the heck I wanted to do the first few weeks. Once I finally decided that I wanted the separation and divorce, she helped me more financially and also with a place to stay. SO, that means stbx was stuck in the other state because he had to work. I wasn't about to let her go back there to visit him, because there was a huge risk of him not giving her back, and I basically had no life in the old state.
He was supposed to come out for Xmas, but it didn't pan out. He got PO'd because I wouldn't let him take her unsupervised for 12 hours. I said he could have a supervised visit with her in a public place for a few hours. That wasn't good enough for him. He had to pout like a baby and say, "NO-I'm not coming at all!". Of course, he continued to tell my dd that I wasn't letting her see him, which wasn't the case AT ALL. So she takes it out on me-thus the "mean mommy" comments.
SO, next week when I go back to court, I have to return to the previous state. I don't even know yet if Erica has to come with me. His attorney may insist that she come so he can have a visit. But again, I'm not letting him take her anywhere by himself unless the court orders me to. We are asking for supervised visitations due to his alcoholism (even though he states he has stopped drinking) and history of drinking and driving with dd in car. I just don't trust him anymore, period, I guess.
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