Filed!

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Filed!
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 11:55pm

My attorney filed the divorce papers today. I feel little strange about it, but mostly happy that I'm really going to be through with him by the end of July.

I had a talk with him last night and it just proved yet again that this is the right thing to do. He continues to say he won't get a regular job. That the only way he'll earn money is as an artist. Nevermind that he could get enough work if he wanted to, but he's too focused on larger aspirations to buckle down and do enough to take care of what is needed now.

I'm getting a little scared about money. I have had zero help from him since he left and things are starting to get a bit tight. He of course is worried about saving his own butt and has to find a way to earn money so his girlfriend doesn't kick him out. Why isn't he concerned about his kids? I just don't understand.

I'm trying to be careful with money, but I messed up this week and spent money I shouldn't have. There's no going back either. I just have to be more careful with my paycheck that I get tomorrow.

I'm still mostly hopeful and feeling good. I am excited about the future!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: gwen227
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:17am

It sounds like, all in all, that you're feeling prety good about things.... and that's good!


Hang in there.... we're here with ya!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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In reply to: gwen227
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:57pm

Gwen,

Sending you a hug of congratulations as you take one more step closer... I'm excited to hear that you're optimistic about the future...

*hugs*

Julie

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In reply to: gwen227
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 1:30pm

You sound like you are on the right track - good for you! As for why he isn't concerned about his children, well that is a question that baffles many of us here.

I have found that I can make some extra money by selling things on Ebay. In fact, I've been selling my ex's old stuff he left behind ;).

Melanie

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Registered: 12-28-2005
In reply to: gwen227
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 10:55pm
I am filing tomorrow,and your post sounded very familiar.i have been a stay at home mom for 7 years and now,it seems like the only thing i worry about is money.I am ok,if not very ok about the divorce,i know it's for the best,and i know i can be a really good single mom,i already have been.but financially,i am scared to death.i hate that i will have to rely on him for money for now,i kind of feel like he still controls me then?Maybe it's just fear.anyways,it helped to read that its ok to be happy to moving on instead of guilty and regretful.thanks.good luck with everything