Filed the petition...how do I accept it?
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| Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:47pm |
I am not the one who wants a divorce. It is DH. I cannot blame him, but I wish he would be strong enough to stay and work on our marriage. We had a decent friendship and were good parents together. He is just so mad at me now he is not thinking clearly. He told me he wanted me to do the filing. As much I wanted to hope he would change his mind, he really seems set on divorce as the only option. I did the filing because 1.) he is the only one employed and I do not have access to his paycheck or any money to pay bills or feed our children (he has left the home) and am at his mercy when it comes to payday. 2.) I do not think I could handle coming home to find the papers in my mailbox. I think I might kill myself. Besides taking his paycheck, my car, stopping his deductions into his 401K, I now find he is missing a lot of work. Meanwhile our bills our piling up. I cannot understand why he would do this. We have three little kids to support and I am not working although I am furiously seeking employment. I have told him repeatedly that ruining our credit will only make it harder on us and the children. Meanwhile I have let him see the kids every time he wants to. My heart is breaking over this. Even though I am taking all the actual steps to move on, my mind does not seem to want to follow. I keep praying that he will change his mind. I went from crying constantly to being numb the past few days and now I wonder if I am in denial. The worst part is I know this is just the beginning. Any BTDT advice? What are the best or worst things I could be doing now?
Thank you for your help.

Rose, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think there are some links somewhere on the board about protecting yourself financially during divorce. As for the near future, you've taken the first step. As soon as your petition is into the system you can move for temporary orders, such as support. Meanwhile, go and apply for food stamps, WIC, AFDC if possible. Ask what other resources are available for at-home parents who find themselves suddenly on their own.
Big hugs, Rose. Take care of yourself and keep posting. Best of luck in your job search.
im sorry youre going through this. hang in there
You ARE doing the right things..... you're taking action to protect your children by ensuring that they are supported and can eat and have a place to live.... and you're letting them see him.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~