Filing for Divorce and his family
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| Thu, 01-18-2007 - 7:55pm |
I'm filing for divorce on monday. I was wondering other than ss#'s is there anything else they will need? The lady at the office said it was all they needed but it seems like there should be something else. How does the process work? Does anyone know? My stbx is up and down w/his emotions. One minute he'll settle and work w/me and the next he says he'll fight it. I know he wont pay the money for a lawyer to fight me in the long run but I am afraid of his response.
Another thing, his family keeps calling me to talk about things. I have refused to discuss this with anyone in his family. If they have questions, they can talk to my stbx. It sounds mean and I do care about them but I feel I will have to plead my case and they just wont understand the abuse and minimize everything like he does. Am I doing the right thing here? He and they wont leave me alone. : (

You are doing the right thing and his family doesnt need to be involved your the one getting the divorce and as for him well my ex did the same crap to me one minute he wanted me and the next he said good bye so hang in there and we are here for you for you are not alone
HUGS
Hi Match,
If the county clerk instructs you that you only need your SSN to file that's probably accurate. What you'll want to gather up in the meantime for a meeting with an attorney and subsequent discussions is all the information you can get together on bank accounts, insurance, investments, retirement plans, bills, loans, and any other information related to your joint assets and debts.
Also, I think you're doing the right thing when it comes to declining to discuss this with his family. Divorce touches everyone, that's true, but it sounds like your STBX doesn't have the courage to try to talk to you himself, hence, his family calling.
Good luck.
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