Filing moved To Wed.

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Registered: 12-11-2003
Filing moved To Wed.
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 3:28pm

Come on ladies I need some support here. I'm starting to have that doubtful feeling, he was supposed to have went at 1:30 today, and stupid me calls to see what they said and he said they moved it to Wednesday. I started crying, my car has tore up, my grandmother was in the hospital, now my parents are giving me a hard time already wanting me to move out. It's only been 3wks and I can't take it anymore. He told me if I wanted to talk before Wed. to call him, but I know I don't need to. I have done so good, now I'm back sliding, I want to work this out, and I know it can't never work. He has told everyone but me he don't want kids, he has pushed me away for 2yrs over a baby. He went and got a freaking girlfriend, and now I feel like this. Why? It sucks, Help me suck it up and do it. It hurts me so bad to think of living a life without him, but I know so much that it will never work. Should we just have a cry together, or should I just go cry to a girlfriend? I know my friends are getting so tired of hearing about it though, I don't chat much about it, just some times it bothers me that he has someone and I don't. I hate being lonley. I have been lonley married for 2yrs, and now I'm single lonley. I'm down today and have been for 2 days.

Stacy

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Mon, 08-22-2005 - 3:34pm
Stacy - why are you waiting for him to file for divorce? Why did it get postponed? You can file too, you know! Actually it would probably be better for you to file first.
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 3:46pm

He kicked me out and he wanted the divorce. He is paying for it all, no contest. We aren't fighting over anything. I took what was mine and what my family had bought us and I left what I didn't want. I told him since he wanted it he could pay to get rid of me. So that's why I haven't done anything.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Mon, 08-22-2005 - 3:48pm
OK but please be careful. Just because stbx says he doesn't want anything from you doesn't mean that is how he will file. If I were you I would consult with a lawyer now or at least after he files to review everything. What about joint bank accounts, leases, credit cards, etc.?
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 3:54pm

We don't have joint accts. we do have a loan together for a 4-wheeler that has 2 payments left, and he said he was taking a loan out for the divorce and to pay that off. As far as credit cards he did run my bill up to $363 I had issued him a card in my name (stupid me) I told him I would pay for that if he would pay for the divorce so we have pretty much agreed on everything.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 08-22-2005 - 4:26pm

Oh honey....


I remember your story.


I think what is important is that the reason you are feeling this way, is because YOU are allowing yourself to feel this way.


You have got to take care of you and stop worrying about him. He wanted this and now he can have it... he cannot have both worlds and you allowing yourself to feel this way is basically saying what he did is OK.


Hugs to you, please remember, EVERYTHING happens for a reason.


Angelena