Filing...and very confused

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Registered: 08-01-2001
Filing...and very confused
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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 2:17pm

Hi ladies...
I have not been on in a while; I am teaching again as well as working 2 part time jobs, in addition to running dd to swim and dance classes. You know how it is.

I saw an attorney last weekend and he sent me drafts of a Marriage Settlement Agreement, Custody Agreement, etc. I am looking over these and although I really think this is the right thing to do, I can't make myself sign them and send them to H.

H and I have talked a lot over the past couple of weeks and each conversation confirms my decision (he just can't seem to make a decision so I figured I would have to be the one to bite the bullet and do it). Despite this, I am finding this harder and harder to deal with. I have cried more the past 2 weeks than I have in the past 2 years (living in a loveless marriage made me shut down emotionally).

Although deep down I know this is the right thing to do, how do I REALLY know, and convince myself that I am not making a terrible mimstake?

Any advice or words of wisdom you can offer are appreciated. I have the papers in my hands...just don't know what to do with them now. THanks.

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Registered: 09-21-2003
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 11:17pm

Hi -- I'm new to this board and saw an attorney Tuesday. I have never lived alone in my life and it scares the daylights out of me. Even though my husband is a control freak, it is still very hard to sign those papers and get the ball rolling.

If you come up with any good answers to your post, I would love to hear them -- I'm in the waffling stage too.