Final on 7/21/07...have questions

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Final on 7/21/07...have questions
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 2:49pm

OK, so our court date is this Friday, July 20th (edit) at 9:15 a.m. Our divorce is uncontested and everything has been signed. We will meet in the judge's chambers. So what exactly happens then? Does the judge just look over everything and then sign and that's it? I'm nervous but anxious for it to be over at the same time. I just need to know what to expect.

Another thing that I wonder about...in our parenting plan, STBX is supposed to get life insurance on himself with me as the beneficiary (acting in interest of the kids). He has yet to do this. Should I mention this on Friday? I don't want to have to go back to court over this insurance thing (STBX keeps telling me he is taking care of it but has yet to provide proof of insurance). But I don't want to just let it go either. Will saying something on Friday at least get it on record that it hasn't been done yet? Will the judge do anything (like tell him he has so many days to do it) or will he do nothing? My attorney won't be there because everything has already been agreed on and I just want to look out for the interests of my children.

Any advice would be appreciated.

TIA,
Stephanie




Edited 7/18/2007 3:43 pm ET by steph71
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 3:38pm

Stephanie!!!! Friday is July 20th!!! Check your notice ... the 21st is a Saturday. Just fyi.

I haven't gotten to the stage you are at, but I would most definitely bring up the insurance thing. Much easier to get it taken care of now, I would think.

GL!

M

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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 3:42pm
Duh, you're right. It's the 20th, not the 21st. I've been so screwed up this week...I haven't been able to keep up with the date to save my life! Thanks.
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 4:24pm
I'm curious, I've only spoken to one lawyer...whose price was outrageous so I'm trying to find another...but he never said anything about life insurance, is this a norm to demand from the ex? I think my sister mentioned this to me once, saying it was a MUST. I wonder if there's anything else he left out???
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 6:25pm

I don't know what state you live in but one thing NOBODY told me was that since I filed for the divorce, I took the stand. My attorney went through the divorce decree and I had to swear everything was the truth. I really thought it was unfair that EX wouldn't give up GF, wouldn't file for divorce, and I had to take the stand. Luckily we were the last ones so it was just in front of 6 people.

My EX still didn't get his required insurance. I don't know what will happen if you bring it up in court but if he doesn't adhere to the decree you can file for contempt of court later. I would probably bring it up so that you don't have to pay to go to court later and maybe the judge will advise him that it is in his best interest to get the insurance.

GOOD LUCK Steph71!!!

Brenda
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 8:29pm
I would call your attorney tomorrow AM and ask that s/he fax your stbxh's attorney that day and ask for stbxh to provide this documentation when you meet him on Friday. Otherwise, get your attorney's advice on whether to bring it up or not. You could also ask your attorney what to expect in court. Otherwise, I would just expect that the judge may ask a few questions and then sign the document. Since you are meeting in the judge's chambers, it won't be as formal as being in court.

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 12:00pm
The life insurance thing was part of our parenting plan. He has to get and maintain life insurance until his child support obligation ends (in 17 years!). I would guess it is standard in all parenting plans. Of course, if you don't have children, it may just be something you could ask for but may or may not get. But I would insist on it if there are children involved.