First appt with attorney

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Registered: 02-07-2006
First appt with attorney
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 8:55am

Hello! I am new here and I am sure you can guess the reason I am here. I called yesterday for an appointment with an attorney. Thanks to my company's EAP I get a free consultation. I was hoping to get some advice on what I need to ask so that I can get the biggest bang for my money (well, it's free but still...). I have 2 minor children, so obviously I am going to ask about child support and custody laws in our state. We really don't have many assets to divide up, so that shouldn't be a big deal. Anything else that I am not thinking of? I feel like my head is spinning and won't stop. Thanks in advance,

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 4:56pm
It's called empowerment.... the more we know, the more at ease we feel.... and the more control we feel like we have.... because we know.... we're not sitting in the dark ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 5:42pm
The biggest reason I don't want him to get his own attorny is because then they will tell him that he can petition the judge to make us stay in this county. If he's upset enough to get an attorny then he will also be upset enough to do that. There is no way I could make it here in a strange place with no family or friends as a single mother. I have asked every attorney I have talked to about that and all have told me that if he petitioned it would be granted. We live in an air force town and they said the judges even do it to people in the military, they can leave but they can't take the kids.
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 8:32am
I was wondering about that as well. We moved to a state a few years ago and we have no family here. As much as I love it here, it would be much easier if I moved back home where I have family and friends and a support system. The kids wouldn't have to go to after school, my mom gets off work early during the day and could pick them up. My brother works for the government and gets every holiday known to man off and said he would watch the kids on holidays if I had to work. But, their dad wouldn't be there. My stbxh has said that he would never move back. As of right now, I don't plan on moving back home but I have never been a single mother so I don't know if I can do it on my own. I want the option to be able to move back if I need to. It feels like there are so many things that I have never had to think of until now. It is quite overwhelming....
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Registered: 01-11-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:29am
That is actually my biggest fear. We moved last july. I love it here. Love the schools, the neighborhood, the house we are renting...However rentals are limited and pretty expensive, due to the airforce base I am assuming. Since I haven't worked in 9 years and never finished college my job options are limited. I would have to put my babies in daycare, which is not a bad thing, I just would rather they have someone to pick them up after school. I would have no one to pick them up if they were sick, ect. No one to watch them if I had to work on school holidays. I would love to be able to stay here I just know I can't. Makes it hard for me to understand how things were good enough for him to move his family away from everyone and everything they ever knew but in a few short month he decides he wants a divorce. I just don't get it.....

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