First boring weekend alone

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Registered: 11-28-1999
First boring weekend alone
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Sat, 09-06-2008 - 6:06pm

STBX moved out of the house mid July but this is really the first weekend I have been alone.

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Registered: 07-29-2003
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 8:42pm

Hang in there!

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Registered: 07-29-2003
Sat, 09-06-2008 - 8:50pm
You know the other thing you could do which I used to before being married was to have my own little self-indulgence nights if I was feeling blah.
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 9:59am
When I found myself in this position, I decided to join the local gym. I was lucky that they only charged $10.00 a month! I figured if I was that desperate, I could always go workout...lol! I didn't/don't have a lot of friends that have the availability to hang out and do things when I'm not working, so the gym was and is a way for me be around other people and get some exercise. I really can't complain about the expense when it's only $10.00 a month.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 10:59am

I was thinking that I should have gone by the video store earlier.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 11:07am

That is probably a good idea.

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Registered: 10-07-2006
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 11:31am
Been divorced for 3 years now, and I still can't get used to being alone e/o weekend. Sometimes I like it- I go shopping or places the kids hate (think Yankee Candle Factory in Mass), but sometimes it's really tough. This weekend was especially difficult because of the "Hannah" rain and a nasty argument this am with the ex over when to meet to pick up the kids. Today's really nice, but I have nothing to do but plan teaching lessons for Monday and ruminate over lingering anger with ex. Yuck.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 11:50am

Hey, do you live in Western MA?

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Registered: 10-07-2006
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 12:35pm
So pathetic that I'm still doing nothing but roaming the web! I live in CT. I used to live in Fairfield County before divorce, but now I live near Hartford. I have two kids- 10 and 12 (boy, girl). I'm a regular ed teacher and now a special ed student teacher. Interestingly, I met a friend on this web site when the whole divorce thing began, and it turned out that we were both moving to the town I live in now! We still keep in touch, and our girls are in school together. Haven't been on this site for years, but it's good to know support is out there (along with mom's who sometimes like to waste time at Yankee Candle). I visited the ex at Umass Amherst many times- I still sometimes vist the area with the Big E coming up next week. I could tell you about the area, as we lived in Sturbridge for some time. My e-mail is laurabbaldwin@comcast.net
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 1:01pm

First of all...go UMASS....lol! I went there for a year and LOVED it (didn't go back because of finances, finished up later in CT). I lived in the Central housing area my first semester, the Orchard Hill. I LOVED it there. I hope your DD is enjoying it. It's a great school; there's so much to do and be involved in. Also, I loved the town of Northampton. You reminded me of how much I miss it!

Also, I've never done an aerobics class at the gym - I'm too uncoordinated and clumsy! I enjoy doing the machines. The elliptical and bikes are great if you have knee problems.

On a side note, even if you're bored, you really, really need to stay away from the STBX when it comes to socializing. I'm not trying to be harsh, but it sounds like you're shocked every time he's a downer, mean, pessimistic, yet he behaves this way every single time he's around you. I realize you're trying to be nice, but you're only encouraging him, which isn't helping. In a way, you may be harming him because he's not being forced for forge ahead and make a life of his own. Plus, his misery is simply bad for your mental health!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 11:52am

I know you are right about your last paragraph.