first court date tom..I am so scared !!
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first court date tom..I am so scared !!
| Sun, 02-04-2007 - 11:33pm |
Hi everyone! My name is Kelli and I am mom of 3 fabulous kids. I filed for divorce a month ago and am preparing myself for our first court date tom. This is for case disclosure. I am so scared and nervous. To give you a little back ground about my life...My ex and I started dating when we were 16 got engaged at 18 and married at 20. I thought we would be together forever..Wrong! I will be 34 next week and needless to say we didn't quite make the forever mark. In May 2005 we began fighting for no good reason and he began taking off often not coming home(claimed he was at his brothers rt down the road). This went on for months. I begged and pleaded with him to tell me what was wrong..it was I don't know what I want...he said he wasn't getting enough sex and that I didn't seem interested in him etc.. I cried myself to sleep every night for months. He always seemed to feel bad for upsetting me and my friends insisted he was having an affair. I defended him to the end..he would never do that to me. Well he was and he moved her in about 2 days after he moved the kids and I out. That was Jan 2006. In June 2006 he proposed in front of my kids. This is so morally wrong. We only had a verbal agreement between us concerning the visitation and the child support. He has since quit paying me (I don't feel that $100.00 per month qualifies as support) and has convinced my oldest son who just turned 12 to live with him. So I filed for divorce and got a new lawyer and our first court date is tom. It needs to be done. He wants to see the kids but does not communicate with me and is in fact downright rude and obnoxious in dealing with me. I just want a court ordered child custody agreement and the proper child support that he has to legally pay. I want all of the bull to end and I want him to stop lying and be a man. He made the choice to walk away from our marriage and now he should be happy with her. Apparently that is not the case. I spent almost half of my life with this man and I thought I new him. I was wrong I don't know who he is anymore. I think that he loves his kids but is not able to put their best interests ahead of his own selfishness. That is so sad. He was having the kids a lot, there was no need to do what he has done. I love my kids and I have always been the main parent in their lives even when we were married. I looked after everything for all of them including him. I am so sad that it has come down to this. I will not back down and no matter what happens I know in my heart that I am the best Mom I can be and that I will fight for my kids no matter what. Sorry this got so long...
Thanks for listening,
Kel
Thanks for listening,
Kel

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You've made a good choice.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Kel,
I'm not sure if you'll get this before you go, but I thought you might want a post/response in your box when you got home. Just know that you've got a good base going with your kids. That's terrific!! I know how hard it is NOT to say something about the two of them. It's gotta be almost unbearable to have to deal with someone that young, and someone that you don't trust with your kids, and know that you don't have much choice on the matter here. Just let the court know your concerns. If you present them in an adult, positive manner, they'll listen, trust me!!
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers today. Sending positive, healing, calming thoughts your way!!
I'll be looking forward to your post on how things went!!
Take care,
Laurene
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