first step

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Registered: 08-22-2006
first step
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:55pm

So my STBX and I have been seperated for a month now, it does get easier with time I guess. We have not talked for 2 weeks exactly, however I made a stupid mistake of calling him at work just to make sure he was still alive. I guess I cannot stop thinking about what he thinks of me and I cant stop worrying about the fact of whether or not he is ok. I dont know why I worry about him so much, he was never good to me and was abusive..it just doesn't make sense. Any how I went and met with an attorney today just to see how the procedure would work out. I want it over as quickly as possible, so that atleast I can move on with my life without feeling guilty. She told me it would be a speedy process because we do not have kids and even more quick if I dont want any alimony, the house, or his pension from him. I really felt that she wanted me to go after him for money, but I really don't care and don't want it. My freedom is more important to me. I just can not decide if I should be nice to him and have the papers mailed to him, rather than have him served. My heart is leaning towards being nice to him and just having the papers mailed to him, once again because I am thinking about what he thinks of me. Who knows?!?

Well Thank you for listening, any advice or insight would be appreicated..Thanks!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: azk1031
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 8:01am
Again, we forgive mistakes around here ;) I think you did a great job by maintaining no contact for two weeks. Just remember, it's time for you to care for yourself now. About serving the papers, do what you feel comfortable with. You're moving on to your new life now, and you deserve to be happy. No more beating yourself up over the little things.