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| Sun, 06-24-2007 - 1:38pm |
Looking for insights/advice from BTDT moms/dads. Our family is overseas (for my job), H just took a great job in TX, my drivers license/family is in NJ (and we'll go there in Dec) and my official "home leave" address/voting registration is in CO.
We will almost certainly divorce and H is amenable to that. I checked out Cornell Law's family law overviews and it seems like in TX it takes 3 yrs?!@ to finalize the divorce and one other message board person knew someone whose no-fault dragged on forEVEr. We have no property but 4 kids but am pretty certain we can come to agreement on a visitation schedule without attorneys.
So, for those of you BTDT in those states...
How "easy" was it to start/finalize the process and how long did it take?
Did you do it yourself (I'll most likely be going pro se)?
How favorable were they on child support/spousal support (and did anyone w/ custody have to pay their X spousal support)? (I earn more than him.)
What kinds of residency/domicile requirements does the state have?
Did anyone file with a spouse living out of state?
Thanks very much. I'm most interested in speed/ease rather than support $'s.
Karen

Thanks, yayafan. NJ would be easiest for lots of reasons - have an address I can use, drivers license already, easier to get to when traveling, going anyway for Christmas. I think he'll agree to irreconciliable differences. Once I start the process I don't want it to drag on and on.
Thanks so much. Karen
I live in NJ and my divorce was finalized in April. It was just over a year - start to finish. We did the no fault - which has been changed in NJ to I think 6 months. I had a lawyer - he did not. XH and I sat down and came up w/ $$ and custody plans on our own. I gave them to my lawyer and he drafted a property settlement agreement. Then it was filed in the courts after the appropriate abount of time and on 4/3/07 my lawyer and I went to court to appear in front of a judge and after 10 minutes I was handed my divorce decree. It does help a lot when you and XH can agree on a lot of the money and kid issues on your own. I think that is what holds up most of the divorces.
Denise