The Forensic Report is in....

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Registered: 06-11-2004
The Forensic Report is in....
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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 11:27am

As you all know yesterday was a big court day for me. We were to get the results back from the forensic evaluation. I had been anxiously awaiting this day for months. Ex's lawyer wasnt there due to a family emergency so I know we wouldnt get much done. The judge Ive been told is a real tough so we have to be on point. She asked if there were any problems and I told her what happened on the sunday dropoff ex leaving ds in the street unattended and she scolded him for it. He ofcourse lied and said that I called ds and that's why he started walking to me so it's my fault ofcourse, yeah right. He also tried to say that ds has no issues with carpeting and had the nerve to say his dr told HIM that she didnt write a note stating he needs to not be in carpet. I ofcourse didnt let his lies fly. He even tried to lie about us agreeing on every other holiday, we didnt. So he will get columbus day and we share thanksgiving which is what I requested.

Now the results: They spoke on me first. They said positive things but also said I could benefit from therapy because I still seemed hurt over the breakup and how it happened.

When they began his eval. I was getting worried because they hadnt mentioned any therapy for him. Well when we turned the page they stated the he would benefit from psychological treatment and anger management classes as well as domestic violence counseling. My God. It also stated that it is in their professional oppinion that primary residential and legal custody be awarded to me and he have liberal visitation right.

My lawyer was very pleased with the report and said this is what we wanted. Ex is going to flip when he hears this.

Ladies I take this as a big victory for me. YES YES YES. They pushed for this eval and this is what it turned out.

Thanks for all your help.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 1:16pm
Wonderful news!!! Thanks for letting us know how it went! I hope things continue to go well.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 1:19pm

whoo whoo whoo!! dancing a happy dance right alongside you!!!

sounds like you both had a fair evaluation ---- it may hurt you to hear that *they* think that you need therapy - but heck, who DOESN'T need therapy? you have been thru a lot issue and it can't hurt. it sounds like the recommendation that they gave YOU was more of a 'general' recommendation but it sounds like they were right on the money re your ex.

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 3:38pm

lol, doing the happy dance right along with you. Its funny you mentioned "heck who doesnt need therapy" because my lawyer laughed when he read that and said "I think we could all probably use a little therapy" and said I've been through alot and it's understandable that I'd be upset over what happened.

Im not totally over it yet, I can admit that. I still get sad sometimes, hell he was a big part of my life thought it would be forever and we'd have this big family. Nonetheless this is surely a victory for me. My mom says not to gloat and she's right.

I know for a fact ex will think I payed the dr's off or something and that Im trying to take ds from him but Im not. He took it here and has done alot of lying. Really all I want is something stable for ds. I just hope this doesnt push him over the edge and he resort to violence against me or ds to spite me because he blames ME for EVERYTHING WRONG in his life and still accuses me of using ds as a pawn to hurt him. It's kind of scary. He's gonna take this hard.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 6:36pm

Congratulations... I hope that it helps out! And they said you could benefit from counseling... that's not a bad thing going through a divorce as you begin co-parenting!

*hugs*

Julie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 7:50pm

What wonderful news! I'm so happy for you.

Melanie

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 7:52pm

Congrats! Sounds like it went really well. You must be so happy!


As for therapy? I've been in it for a couple of years, and don't plan to stop any time soon! It's helped me immensely....I actually look forward to it!


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Registered: 09-13-2006
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 3:32am

Congratulations, it is great to hear that you are staying strong!

Take Care,
Rachel