Found out he's having an affair
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|Mon, 05-20-2013 - 12:02pm|
My STBX and I have had problems for over a year. He told me that we lost the love we used to have and that, while he still loves me, he didn't know that we would ever reconnect again. We've been in marriage counciling for about 8 months and have had our ups and our downs. Though, he continuously told me that he wants to make our marriage work.
He told me on Thursday night that he is no longer in love with me and wants a divorce. Obviously, I am devastated and terrified because we have two kids that are going to suffer because of this. He makes twice as much as I do and I'm concerned that the divorce will hurt me and the kids financially while he'll be just fine.
For a long time, I've believed that he is having an affair with his single, female boss. I believe this because he's very sneaky about his phone and text messages. We share an account and I can see how often and what time they text each other. It happens all hours of the day and night. over 800-900 messages per month!! Of course, he deletes them as soon as they're sent or recieved.
Last night I came up behind him as he was reading one from her and he tried to clear out his iPad before I could read it. I was able to open it and it said "I hope you can get some sleep tonight, honey. I'll see you tomorrow" Devastated again!! Now it all makes sense...why he has given up on us.
I am already looking for apartments for the kids and I to go to since I'll have them 50% of the time and I cannot afford to stay in the house. Heck, I'll barely (IF at all) be able to afford an apartment. This whole situation just isn't fair to me or, especially, my kids. They have been so happy and now their worlds are going to be crushed because their daddy couldn't actually try to save their family but, instead, decided to sleep with his boss
I dont know what to do..