Freedom

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Freedom
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Wed, 08-09-2006 - 1:48pm

An actual Positive out of this whole mess of a situation (divorce in general); what do you know.

I'm 36 and divorced 11 months, no kids, one SuperDog. I was on the phone this morning to a guy friend from undergrad. He is married with four kids.

During the conversation he goes, "I think about school a lot; I miss having that freedom. I miss being able to go where I want, do what I want, talk with who I want, just do whatever whenever." I thought wait a minute; that's my life now!

I mean, even though it feels awful that I think I've made absolutely no 'progress' since I was 22 (divorce makes me feel like I took a step back in life, not a step forward -- I don't have a house anymore but an apartment and I live sparsely like a college student blablabla), at least I can say I have Freedom. Just an observation and I hope you all are having a good day. Love Fzz

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Registered: 10-19-2004
In reply to: fzz12
Wed, 08-09-2006 - 3:49pm

I've been feeling a lot like that now. I'm 37 seperated 6 months (married less than 2) and I love being able to do what I want.

My fav is.. I love when I clean the kitchen is actually stays clean. :)

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Registered: 06-25-2006
In reply to: fzz12
Wed, 08-09-2006 - 5:27pm
Our marriage counselor suggested that one of us move out to retain any semblance of a decent relationship, whether that be for reconciliation (his choice) or co-parenting our almost 9-year old (my choice), so I am staying in a friend's mom's empty condo for a month until my lease begins on an apartment. All I can say is that I have never been happier to be on my own and out of that DEPRESSING HOUSE with that DEPRESSING MAN who only invokes guilt on me. I am better with my girls (two daughters, one 9, the other nearly 20 and already out of the house) and I am better focused at work. And I've only been out for a week! It's like a weight has been lifted off me. (18 years married, and I'm only 39).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: fzz12
Wed, 08-09-2006 - 9:17pm

It is great when we have those lightbulb moments when we realize a positive has come out of the divorce, which isn't an easy process for anyone...

Julie