frustrations piling up

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frustrations piling up
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Wed, 08-09-2006 - 2:46pm

This is just for vent because I know there's no solutions to the issues I'm having!! The entire summer has been one thing after another. My father has had cancer and went downhill and ended up passing away July 19, while his illness was going on my dog got hit and killed by a car and my son's cat had to be put down and their great aunt on their father's side passed away (two days before my father). It's been so difficult trying to let all this sink in.

I've been back to work from bereavement leave and have had the week from HELL. Wednesday was so crazy busy that I ended up having to work a 14 hour shift. I am an OR nurse so it's not like I can just say tough $hit I'm going home. It's kind of a life and death thing. Then yesterday I was lucky to even get a break. The work is so tiring and my shifts are long. This morning I was getting stuff done around the house and work calls to ask if I can switch my schedule around. This is going to involve me working LABOR DAY WEEKEND. Geesh! The worst possible weekend to be working at a trauma center, let me tell you. I worked July 4th (volunteered) and it was a living Hell. Stupid people tricks all weekend. I'm totally burned out on taking care of people that get drunk and mess themselves up.

Plus it's time for back to school shopping and I'm broke. My car got repossesed the day AFTER my father passed and it was a huge deal and a lot of hoop jumping to get it back. My ex started his usual trying to get out of helping with the shopping. He thinks his contribution is to buy bookbags and notebooks. I want him to shop for the boys and me for the girls. My teen daughter needs bras which are kind of expensive and I've already shelled out a fortune on her soccer gear. He just doesn't get it.

The kids also have a dentist appointment for their 6 month cleanings and it falls on a day the ex has them. I CANNOT get out of work that day and he of course says he's going to switch the day. Good luck, I made that appointment last February and the whole point of it being in August is so I don't have to take them out of school for it. I take them in February during winter break.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 08-09-2006 - 7:54pm

HUGS! If anyone needs a good vent, it's you. I am so sorry about your father. I can only imagine how hard things are for your right now. I think you REALLY need a little something nice for yourself....even if it's a morning for you to sleep in and read in bed!


I am truly sorry you're going through so much.


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Wed, 08-09-2006 - 9:38pm

Wow... that's all I can think of when I read your message... you've been through so much recently. I'm glad that you came here to vent and hopefully by doing so you are feeling a touch better... I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your father, children's great aunt and the furbabies--they do become such a big part of your life...

I wish you peace... come back soon and let us know how you're doing!

*hugs*

Julie

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Registered: 07-09-2006
Thu, 08-10-2006 - 12:36am

I'm so sorry that you're having such an awful, awful time. I just got home from a 12 hour shift in the ER and now I'm going to start all the "mommy duties". How is it that men can walk out and then be content to take such a small role in their childrens lives? I really still haven't been able to absorb it. I hope the overtime is at least helping. My hospital is continually taking me off the minor holidays so that they won't have to pay me the per diem holiday rate. God forbid I actually have 2 pennies to rub together on payday. Hugs to you.

Theresa

 

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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 6:29am
No problems here if I want to work a holiday. LOL. I am working labor day plus the weekend, but that's ok because the kids are with their dad that weekend. I worked the last couple of days and stayed at my BF's house since the kids were with their dad and it was nice to not have to come home to a trashed house and tons of demands. More relaxing for sure. Most days lately I feel so burned out that the thought of the days happening over and over is so depressing!