Funny how your feelings can flip flop
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| Mon, 08-01-2005 - 3:43am |
I posted a few days ago about how great it was that dh and I could civilly discuss that he is moving out. How he didn't want to screw me financially. How sincere he seemed and I was willing to trust that. How relieved i was that we finally came to some conclusion.
Yesterday my friend across the street told me she is moving out, her dh cheated. We were shocked and amazed to come to this at the same time. He is such a mild mannered guy, you would never guess it. Blah, blah, blah. While we were talking, her husband came in and it was just too creepy to see how good we have both gotten at pretending everything is normal. Her dh had been stung by a wasp earlier in the day and spent the day at his parents house on the couch with an icepack. He said "...not how I wanted to spend my day." I wanted to say---Serves you right, you %(*#&%#&@%!
Meanwhile, my own dh is out 'golfing'.
Now I'm up at 3 AM plotting to see a lawyer, skip the one year legal separation and go straight to the divorce. I want to punish him for every moment he neglected me and my kids, and I want him to cry over every dime it is going to cost him.
Susie

Oh, don't I know it!! One minute I feel like I can handle this, I'm
Be careful about your feelings of wanting to punish your ex. That may come back to bite you in the butt one day or may end up hurting your kids.
Just a little warning, be very wary of decisions made in the heat of anger. The fight is not worth it. I'm just speaking from my own experience. I had a horrible divorce and even more horrible custody battle, wrecking me financially and emotionally hurting me and the kids.
Come back to vent your emotions safely on these boards. You will receive good information and support. Read the stories of other women's experiences.
Take care,
Cupcake