Gave him an ultimatum...now what?
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| Wed, 10-05-2005 - 1:09pm |
I have been engaged almost two years to a younger man who lives in the next state over. To make a long story short, we went through a relocation trial for me to move there (I have a 7 year old DD) and we lost(my ex lives a mile away from me). So a few months go by and he hasn't made up his mind what he is going to do. This past weekend I finally put my foot down and told him basically to "put up or shut up" because things are going to change. He freaks out and leaves but after a couple days realizes what his priorities are and wants to move my way and get married.
Since the trial, I have seen things in a completely different light and want what's best for my DD and myself. I want my fiancee to move here but I'm not as ga-ga as I was before. I feel like I need to be more practical. I am giving him a week with no contact for him to reflect on his decision to move here and make sure he is doing it for the right reason and not because I pushed him into it. I also need a break because I think we have gone round and round for a too long on this and want to just breathe for a little bit. I am trying not to write a book here so it may sound a little broken...sorry.
Am I crazy? Has anyone else done this? I don't doubt his heart is in the right place and he loves me. I just want him to take some time and really understand the weight of his decision because I don't want to have another marriage like my first ( no communication there).
Lola

Hi Lola.... I do think that he needs some time to really think about the decision.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~