Getting the dates together for court
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| Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:48am |
Well, tomorrow is the 1st court date where he tries to get the c.s. reduced b/c he's unemployed. Loser.
Then next week is the custody. Ive been going through all my old posts and getting together the dates of when he's cancelled visits. But will a judge take my word for this. I know my ex is planning huge lies Im sure. Im scared they might believe him. How will a judge know who's telling the truth? Then I have the message on the answering machine of his disowning the baby. Can that be used as proof? Then there is him not showing up at the hospital for the surgery.
This is all so crazy and scary. With all the emotional abuse I just stopped talking to him as of Friday. All throughtout the day thrusday when I let him know status with the baby, he was still nasty and it made no sense to even talk to him. He was being so confrontational yelling about "all his stuff" he wanted from the house.
What will happen. I dont really know how custody goes in N.Y.

Just wanted to send you a hug and some positive thoughts, luv. I don't know how the laws of your state work, but here's hoping that judge sees right through your ex and any lies he tries. Gather up everything you need for court and organize it so the info you might need is easily accessible. He's trying to get under your skin, so don't let him see it if he is. Keep your emotions in check as much as you can, and hold your head up high - you're the better person here.
No matter how court goes, from now on I'd keep a journal of everything related to your ex - when he cancels visits, child support payment schedule, etc., so if he tries anything again in the future you've got any evidence you might need already on hand.
Im thinking of any and everything I can to show that Ive been the only one taking care of our son for months. Like papers signed from dr's visits, trying to get him enrolled in preschool, etc. If Im missing anything let me know.