I'm just looking for some support here.
I'm sorry you're having to endure this pain, hillco.
That would be the ideal situation. But some people CANNOT get over infidelity even if it is only ONE affair. And that's an easy statement to make UNTIL you are the one that's been cheated on. Once that trust is broken things will never be the same cause there's aways that little voice in your head that keeps asking you how do you know this won't happen again.