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Getting over an ex husband
| Thu, 11-29-2007 - 6:41am |
My husband and I have been separated for 4 years now.
| Thu, 11-29-2007 - 6:41am |
My husband and I have been separated for 4 years now.
My first impressions:
Do you really believe that this woman left her husband and then struck up a relationship with your husband?
You are either married or you arent.
Awe, that's hard. You have been good friends these four years. I disagree with the previous poster that it is inappropriate for you do do things with your X -- if you created a new relationship as co-parents and friends that's ok -- that's what friends do -- go to movies, have dinner etc. The problem seems to lie in that you were hoping for a reconciliation and he was ok with being friends. So, now you are experiencing a whole new loss. And that is tough, especially with this difficult time for your young son.
You aren't alone in it though. He is still your son's father and you can support each other in that. So accept that piece and accept that you are going to be grieving the loss of a dream of reconciliation. Get to therapy; talk with good friends; read the book "Spiritual divorce." Take care of yourself.
Hugs,
M
I know how you feel. I was married for 16 years, to my first love. We have 3 kids together, one being only 2 years old. He has been gone now, for 2 years, we are divorced,
Laurvina,
Having a good relationship with your Ex is not a bad thing, especially when you have children. The issue for the two of you seems to be deciding to officially ending the marriage.
You say you've been separated for four years. Why hasn't one of you filed for the legal divorce? At any time during this separation did you seek joint marriage counseling or individual counseling?
The fact your husband feels free to engage in a new relationship outside of your marriage should tell you he doesn't share the same commitment you do or the same expectation of renewing your marriage.
At this point, I'd highly recommend that you speak with a lawyer and find out your rights and responsibilities in a divorce. Someone has to file and get the process going.
I also recommend you limit your
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