Getting Rid of Wedding Ring

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Getting Rid of Wedding Ring
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Sun, 11-19-2006 - 1:54am

Hi. I was just wondering how some of you handled getting rid of your wedding ring after divorce or did you even get rid of it? How did it make you feel if you did get rid of it?

I finally just sold mine to a pawn shop yesterday to help me move on with my life. I wasn't even concerned about the money, I just wanted the thing out of my house so I can really move on with my life. I have been divorced for a year, so I felt like it was time. I found myself feeling happy after getting rid of the ring yesterday and then today I got sad. I guess now I know it really is over for good, since my ring is gone. I'm feeling pretty depressed but also at the same time hopeful about the future since I took a big step by getting rid of the ring.

Thanks for listening!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 2:18am
My kids were older when we separated and divorced. I kept my wedding ring to give to one of my kids. It never had much meaning for me anyway. My aunt had a "used" wedding ring that she gave to us. I ended up being allergic to gold. So, I only wore it for a very short period of time. Now, since I'm allergic to gold, my current dh bought me a beautiful platnum wedding ring set that was designed by us with a private jeweler. :)





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Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:07am
:) I have been wondering about this. I am separeted since 4 years, and now am starting the divorce procedures. I have the engagement and wedding rings sitting there since a long time... I have been wondering, either to melt the whole thing together, and make it into a chunkier, more fashionable ring - not anymore a clear "engagement" one, or to melt it and make a diamond drop (you know, the diamond floating on the almost invisible chain) - it isn't a huge rock, it may be pretty. Anyway, I'll probably take them to the jeweler and see, with another piece of jewelry coming from STBX.
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Registered: 11-09-2006
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:20am
Since I was the one to end my marriage and we split on good terms, I just put my wedding set into the safe for my children. Ex gave me his band to do the same. I was sad to remove them from my finger. At that time, I hated the thought of having a marriage end and I really felt like a failure for that, but that was the main reason I was sad to remove them.

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Registered: 02-14-2005
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 3:36pm

I had a different situation. My engagement ring and wedding bands (yes i had two of them) one given to me on my wedding day and one my XH gave me years later were all actually my mother-in-laws rings that she gave us when he asked me to marry him. They were beautiful old rings and one was a plain band all in white gold, and i was proud to wear them. In good conscience there was no way I could keep them and gave them back to my XH the night he told me "there wasn't anything left in his heart that made him want to try." BUT... nearly a year earlier he had given me a beautiful 3 stone diamond anniversary band in platinum which i kept intact for the last year and a half (hope is a b**ch). At one point i was going to sell it because, of course, it lost it's meaning to me... but this summer i had the stones removed and put into a setting for one of those "right-handed rings" - as the ad goes something about not needed a man to own diamonds... and i figured i had to dip into our savings to pony up the cash he was short when he first bought the ring that i may as well keep it... i'm glad i did... and now it no longer reminds me of him and the disappointment of a failed marriage.

Ali

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Registered: 06-24-2006
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 7:27pm

Although I'm not divorced yet, I haven't worn my rings since I found out about STBX's affair. I have given it some thought, and am considering melting the gold, and along with the diamonds, creating either a new ring, or other piece of jewelry for my daughter, and giving it to her for her high school graduation (even though that's years away). I thought of putting it away for her in it's current form, but I doubt she'd wear it, and I don't want any part of it for myself. I'm hoping a piece representing both her parents, even though we're not together, will still be meaningful for her in a few years.

I'm not ready to take that step yet, but when I do, that will most likely be my plan.

Tis

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 7:59am

It's been nearly a decade since my divorce and I still have my wedding and engagement ring from marriage #1. I keep them in a box in the back of my jewelry drawer. I haven't decided what to do with them, but ultimately I'll part with them eventually.


Everyone has a different way of coping.

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 12:24pm
If its not too personal, how much did you get? And do you think it was a fair price?
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Registered: 04-21-2006
Tue, 11-21-2006 - 5:46pm

I don't mind anyone asking what I got for the ring. I only got $200 for it, and, yes, I was fine with this price. My ex paid I believe about $1200 for the ring when he gave it to me. For me, it wasn't even about getting money for it, but just moving on. I am very glad I made the decision to get rid of it. I got rid of it Friday, felt great, but got real sad and depressed Saturday and cried some. But since Saturday, things have been great and I feel like the divorce it really, really over now and I can look forward to my future. Mentally knowing I can't open my jewelry box and look at the ring is helping me move on.

I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving!

Michelle

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 12:25pm

I didn't get too much for my ring either. As I understand it, jewelry in retail stores is expensive because of all the middlemen that are getting a cut.

The money wasn't all that important for me either, it is just great to not have the ring around any more. For me, it does help with the 'moving on' process. I also recently donated my wedding dress and that felt good, too.

I thought about having the ring remade into something else, but I knew I'd likely still have some negative associations with the stones. I also didn't think my ds would be interested in having it either. I am keeping pictures of his Dad for him if he wants them some day. As for other mementos, I have been throwing them out. The last five years of my marriage were so awful, I do not want to be reminded of it.

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Registered: 09-03-2004
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 12:50pm

Not sure if anyone watchs "Grey's Anatomy." But she threw her's off a ferry. Made me get a bit weepy. To just toss it in the water. No worries about regret there.. LOL

I have not done anything with mine due to the fact I could possibly freak out once it is gone. I want it gone but love the idea of making something new out of them for the kids. STBX was supposed to give me his to keep with mine but he had a very elaborate bullcrap story about why he no longer has it.

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