Getting "together" with the ex.

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Getting "together" with the ex.
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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 3:14pm

I keep hearing people talk about how common it is for separated or divorced couples to "hook up" after the initial separation. Is it common? Has it happened to people here? My ex and I are still in the same house til it sells, and he asked to sleep together the other night. I was couldn't believe it (well I could, but thought it was a lousy idea) and he couldn't believe that I had a problem with it. He chalked it up to a "mars and venus thing". I told him we are supposed to be disentangling ourselves, and I didn't want to have relations without an emotional connection. he said he still loves me, so there is an emotional connection.

MEN!!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 5:06pm
Perhaps if you are supposed to be "disentangling" yourselves, you should not be living under the same roof. I started off as living with my ex still while our house was put up for sale but I didn't see that to be a very good option and left to stay with my parents. He soon moved out and stayed with a friend and I then moved back into our house until it sold. I don't think you can really dientangle yourselves until you are indeed living separately.
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Registered: 06-08-2004
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 5:30pm
I agree it's not the best, but he has not worked for 3 years and I don't want to use the last of our savings for him to move out.

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