Getting used to being alone
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| Fri, 04-06-2007 - 6:27am |
This is mostly directed to the older ladies here. How did you get used to being alone? At 48, when this divorce is final, I know the most likely scenario is I will spend the rest of my life alone. Probably would have anyway since stbx has had three heart attacks and won't clean up his lifestyle but, at least, then I wouldn't have lost half our assets first so it would have been easier.
I figure he's going to end up with some kind of unsupervised parenting time. Possibly 50% of the time (I hope not because he's not a 50% parent but that's the default position of the courts here and proving alcoholism can be hard when dealing with a functional alcholic). I've already decided I'm not staying in the house if that happens. I can't stand living here half the time without my kids.
Ok, how do I go about making new friends and finding things to be involved in? We don't have couple friends so I'm not losing friends but my life has been work, my kids and grad school for so long, I have no life outside of family. How do you start over at 48?

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I wanted to address this even though I might be considered a younger person, at 34. I am on my second marriage and it is failing. We may reconcile, but not sure yet. I am just hoping for the best. After my split from husband #1, I moved back home. None of my old friends were there, I had been living away for 10 years, and I had to start over with a young child. I went and got a job, saved some money and got an apartment. I made amends with a few people who I had not been in touch with for years and we established a bond so strong that we later became best friends. I met her friends from work and we all became a group. I got out there and met people. I worked hard all the time, met the girls at work for a drink sometimes, and just made sure I was happy so I could be a better mother. It wasn't easy by any means to get out there and libve, but I did it once and if I have to, I'll do it again.
~Melissa~
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