Going Crazy!!!!!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2006
Going Crazy!!!!!!!!
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Sat, 09-16-2006 - 2:44pm
I think I am going crazy!!! I have been separated for one month now. It was my decision to leave. Things were absolutely wonderful before we married (I thought). we have a long history together. Married two years. I know in my head it is the right thing but my heart is different. We have not actually filed for separation but have seen a lawyer. We discussed absolutely nothing about our life together. He says he makes all decisions in our life, has quit work to return to school fulltime without discussing this with me. Then informs me I can pay all the bills for one year. Never helps in the house. Since we married, we NEVER do anything. His whole idea is that we are married now so we do not have to go out. He wasin agreement with separation at first, but now is driving me crazy. He constantly says he will kill himself before he lives without me. Then on our anniversary(we were not together) buys himself a motorcycle and tells me he cannot afford to pay for 4wheeler and possibly his truck(both of which are in my name) since he has returned to school. Question is neither of us ever had an affair. Just not happy. Am I crazy for feeling confused?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 3:44pm

Sell the 4 wheeler and truck

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 4:10pm

I don't think you're going crazy, it sounds like you're being driven crazy! Get to a lawyer ASAP so you can fund out what your right and responsibilities are regarding these vehicles that your H decided to buy but now can not afford.


Second, regarding the suicidal threats - if he makes the threat again, calmly explain to him the next time he says he's going to kill himself, you are going to call 911 so he can get the help he needs. And then do it, if it comes down to that.


Lastly, imagine a friend had written your post. What would you suggest to her? You'd tell her to get out! This man quit his job without consulting you, put all of the financial burden on you, does nothing around the house, has no interest in activities with you....it sounds like a sad marriage to be part of. You're not crazy for wanting out.