Going to get my "things"- WWYD?
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| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:57am |
I Divorced ex two weeks ago. I was awarded my remaining possessions located at our JOINT property, along with my kids' possessions. First ex tells me I can't come pick them up. I reminded him that I'm still on the deed, it's still my property and according to the judge I have every right to be there. Then he tells me that I can't bring anyone on the property without his consent. Again, no, because then his parents wouldn't be squatting there if that were true because I wouldn't let it happen. So now he's hiding the things the judge awarded me. (kids told me when they got home from his house this past weekend.) I had scheduled a U-haul for two weeks out and for when he would be at the house. Now, I'm thinking that I'm going to find 5-6 of the biggest gentlemen I know, grab a truck and just show up with my decree in hand, ask his dad to sit down and shut up or face going to jail, and go thru every inch of that property and take what I can. Now, he wasn't awarded ANYTHING because he didn't show up at court. The house is still "ours", as is anything that wasn't specifically given to me. The judge said I could move back in and there was not a damn thing he could do about it. So instead of being nice and scheduling something, I'm just going to show up unannounced and take what I want. I'm going to call the local PD and try to speak with an officer today.
Also, I really want to have his parents removed from the property. As far as I'm concerned, they're trespassing. They have been "guests" since May. No lease, no rent payments, nada. If I ask them to leave and they don't, can I have them thrown off the property? BTW - the ex is out of town extendedly on business, so he's not there to protest.

Hi ive,
First, I'm sorry you are going through this mess.
Hi there,
Im pretty sure you can get a police escort to get your things. All you have to do is show them your divorce decree and explain the situation and they will be more than happy to help.
It's not up to your ex as to when you can get your things..... not even a little bit... and as for the parents... what say do they have in anything??? ask them to move aside and keep the stress to a minimum.
I hope that helps and good luck!!!
Hugs,
Angelena
So... first question.... if the house is still joint property, he's living there, but the judge said you can move back in.... what's going to happen with the house????.... eventually????
If you are still planning to go and get your things, I'd take a truck and go.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
"So... first question.... if the house is still joint property, he's living there, but the judge said you can move back in.... what's going to happen with the house????.... eventually????
If you are still planning to go and get your things, I'd take a truck and go. If the EX-inlaws give you heat, call the police, papers in hand, and have the squatters removed from YOUR property while you get your things.... or have them pack up and leave while you move back into your house :-)
Good luck!"
As for the house, the bank filed a notice of default last week. It's being forclosed on.
After even just thinking about this I got stressed and got ill to the point that my doc wants to hospitalize me. So I think I'm just gonna let it go. It's just stuff. We haven't had it in well over a year, and it's replaceable. I really just don't have it in me to deal with this crap anymore. I thought I did, but I guess not.
That is true.... it's definitely not worth making yourself sick over--take care of YOU!!!
At some point if it's easy to get in and get what you want, go for it.... if not, definitely..... the stuff can be replaced.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I'm so sorry that things have gotten so much more difficult during an already difficult time in one's life.
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