Going thru a tough time with Divorce.
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| Wed, 01-30-2008 - 1:52am |
Well first off i want to say this forum is amazing, I've gotten some good advice already and have only been on here a week.
Well I am 20 years old and already am going thru a divorce, which I had my attorney file last week. It has to be the hardest thing I've ever been through. I met my X "Justin" back in 2006, he was everything I could want, what I didn't know was that everything he was, was fake. I thought he was really a decent person, so after getting pregnant 3 months after meeting him, he proposed to me and pressured me into marring him because if I didn't he'd assume I was listening to my friends and family and would constantly make me feel bad for wanting to wait. So after he got me away from my friends and family I married him because I had no one at the time. Big Mistake! And now here I am not even a year later filing for a divorce.
The relationship was the best and worst, the best when he wanted it to be and the worst most of the time. He was really into taking pain pills which he'd spend all the money on off the street. We were always broke, I wasn't alowed to work to make my own money, but he spent all of his. He lives with his parents and I was forced to live with them all too. His mom has physically abused me and mentally abused me as his father and he did. His parents are so controlling of his life. ALl I wanted was our own life. Things were going good for awhile till about July. I truly loved him and tried everything i could do to impove our relationship. Well I guess I should tell you the whole story
Back in February when I was pregnant with his child, his mom tried 2ce to kill my child. One she tried to hurt me with a krutch while I was in the bathroom trying to stay away from her, she is so bipolar and possesive and controlling it's not even funny. She went to jail for that. And that is when things got bad. Justin never allowed me to see my family or friends, or go to chruch or anywhere really. I wasn't allowed to use the phone and get a computer or anything. He's call me every name you can think of making me feel like crap and my self esteem went way down. I used to be such a care free happy girl before I met him, now I am just depresseed all the time. He's cornered me so I can't leave, I've had to sleep in my car pregnant more then once, walked to my parents house in the cold pregnant which is like a 15 minute drive, think about how long of a walk that was, lied saying I tried to commit sucide so I would be taken away and then makes me go to a homeless shelter all while pregnant. But I got so tired of hearing his mouth and his mothers all the time that I left in July while still pregnant. Next thing I know he's calling constantly trying to work things out, cause I love him I wanted to too dispite my family saying it's a bad idea. so he called telling me to pick him up to go to dinner to talk, and I show up and his mom comes out again attacking me, and cops were called and they all played it like I was the one that attacked her, even though I was sent to the hospital with labor pains and the baby in distress so I had to go to jail. I get out and he's all oh I'm sorry, bla bla bla, and I move back in with him and his parents with him promising to get out own place. Well I had the baby and of course I didn't want his parents there and yet they were there, and my parents wern't allowed.

megan I don't have a heck of a lot of advice.