Great Quote!!

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Registered: 11-06-2005
Great Quote!!
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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:53am

I just found this quote on a different site and I thought it would be good for all of us here.

If you have made mistakes...
There is always another chance for you...
You may have a fresh start any moment you choose,
For this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down,
But the staying down.

Mary Pickford (1893-1979) Canadian Actress

It seemed quite appropriate for us.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 6:45am

i love this!

<<"failure" is not the falling down, But the staying down.>>

this is so true.

thanks for sharing

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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 8:21am
I wish this were true. I finally got the guts to ask my ex out on a date last night. He told me a while back that he would go. He said no. I am so despondant now. I don't know what to do or where to go. I can't live without him. I don't even know that I want to. I try to keep living for my children, but the hope that keeps me truely alive is the hope that someday he will come home. I don't know how much longer I can do this. I have cried all night. I don't even know how I am going to work today. I look just beautiful swollen eyes and all. Sorry for turning your lovely quote into my own vent. Guess I should have started a thread of my own. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 08-09-2006
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 9:23am
Brenda, Just remember that there are other fish in the sea. Healing takes time. It is hard for us all to let them go, but it is the best for us. Just remember what he has done to you each time that you think about him. You can get over him. Take each day at a time and remember to take time for youself.
Remember Through GOD all things are possible.....
Hugs!!! You really need them.
Beth
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Registered: 11-06-2005
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:40am

Oh Brenda, I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been saying this so much lately because I'm trying to believe it myself but you deserve more and a better life than someone who is not giving you what you need.

I know it's hard to let go, I'm am struggling daily with wanting to not give up, but the truth is my husband has given up. And I have come to realize the longer I sit and wait and hope the longer he has control and why would he want to see what mistakes he has made if he knows that he still has me waiting for him.

As you become stronger you will begin to see that you can go on without him and create a better life, and he probably will see you differently and maybe see his mistakes. Hopefully by that time you will be strong enough to see that you are better off without someone that does not want to give you what you need.

You can always use any of my posts as a venting area, you have been a source of strenth to me in the past.

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Registered: 06-11-2004
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 12:44pm

Oh Brenda, please dont feel that way. Stay strong for yourself and your kids. When these men walk out of our lives I know we feel as if we cant go on. When I kicked ex out for what he did after giving him more than one chance the pain was so great. I didnt think I'd make it either. Once I even wanted to die I was so hurt. I too was holding on and wanted him to realize what a mistake he made and come home. We started sleeping together again off and on, me thinking this would bring us back together and one day I asked him to come over just like you asked him out on a date and he rejected me. It hurt soo bad I didnt want to go on. I looked at my beautiful son and realized he needed me and loved me. I prayed and prayed for strength from God to get me through the pain and heartache.

A friend of mine told me to read the 37th Psalm. Read it. I read it over and over again. Read Psalms, it will get you through some of your darkest days I know it did for me. Use this board, it will get you through also. Read, I read alot especially books by Iyanla Vanzant. Ooh girl how uplifting she is, try one of her books called "Until Today Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind". You'll see. Let out all of your hurt, pain, anger, dont keep it inside please. By letting it out you will heal. It will take time, a long time but it does get easier. Trust me. Its been about 2 1/2 yrs for me and Im in a much better place now. I look back and say what was I thinking. Does it still sting when I see him with his new gf and our son together. Heck yes. But it doesnt hurt no where near as much as it did back then. Please hold on Brenda, please you have so much to live for. You have an entire future ahead of you. God will send you someone who will love you, honor you and cherish you the way you deserve.

A few quotes got me through tough times and opened my eyes.

1. "If you settle for LESS than what you want you will end up will LESS than what you
settled for". Sooo True. Ive done that and ended up with just that.

2. "There is a story of two tears going down a river. The second tear says to the first tear, where are you from? It replies, I am the one that lost him, where are you from the first tear asks? The second tear answers I am the one that got him". Again soo true. My ex cheated on the ow just like he cheated on me. He left her with twins for the one he's with now.

3. "They say if you lost something you've got to let it go, if it comes back then it means so much more. But if it never does at least you will know, that it was something you had to go through to grow". From Heather Headley's song In My Mind. Im still growing.

4. Lastly a guy friend of mine told me "NO MAN is worth your TEARS and the one that is WONT MAKE YOU CRY"!

Huge hugs Brenda
Londi

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:03pm

brenda, i am sorry you feel this way. I know it is hard for you to believe me when i tell you this, but all of us, at one point or another, have felt the same way that you are feeling now. its normal to feel this way, you have been thru a lot, you are sad, you are afraid to be on your own, and all you want is for things to be back the way they were.

hang in there, take it one day at a time, one step at a time. get all the help you can - therapy, books, meditation, support groups. and come here whenever you need to - please, don't apologize for venting - that is what we are all here for. i remember when i first came here, three years or so ago. i was so angry and scared - i was like a pot about to boil over, all people had to do was say "good morning" and i would feel tears jumping into my eyes. i broke down so many times. but i pushed myself, i went to therpy, for once in my life i was HONEST with myself, did a lot of 'self' work. I made sure to eat properly and exercise. made sure to surround myself with true friends. and slowly - i healed. and you will too, i promise.

in the meantime - if you really feel so depressed and down that you don't want to live - please call a suicide hotline: http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

hugs...

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Registered: 08-12-2006
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 2:27pm

"NO MAN is worth your TEARS and the one that is WONT MAKE YOU CRY"!

Thanks for sharing that. I love that quote! It's so true. We just have to believe it!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: chickygirl2
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 5:25pm

Brenda,


I hope that you've found some sunshine in your day today.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: chickygirl2
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:48am

You can always vent here.


I remember a time not so long ago when you knew that you'd be OK, even without your ex. Remember that...you WILL be OK without him. I'm sure your custody arrangement also makes it difficult, because you have so much contact with one another. I know it's good for the boys, but I'm sure it's hard for you.