GRRR, Part II

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Registered: 01-29-2005
GRRR, Part II
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Wed, 09-06-2006 - 12:05am

I'm sorry I've now had day 2 of complaining, but I am really mad.

This past Sunday I asked my STBX if he could please give me the August child support. He said yes, but that he couldn't find his checkbook. ooookay...

Today I call him about it again, and he tells me he doesn't have the money. That because the skank has had been having health issues, she hasn't been working and that her once almost full time job has been reduced to on-call. He said it was just as well since she "really needs to take it easy right now", but that because she has had almost no income he had to pay all of the rent.

I am furious that he is now trying to support a woman when he won't even help support his kids. I get a ridiculous amount of child support as it is ($250 a month) and now he can't afford that because he's trying to take care of HER.

BAH!

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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: gwen227
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 2:08am

I so totally feel for you. My STBX is either really bad at real estate suddenly, or he's diverting his money elsewhere. Anyway, the court agreed to lower his child support to $150 for two kids! I'm not a big fan of this new judge. When he wasn't paying child support before, the retired judge told him to find a place w/lower rent, so he could afford child support. Unfortunately the new judge sided w/STBX.

It's sad that they put their kids last and that they spend their money on girlfriends (and her kids, if she has any).

My heart goes out to you. Good luck!

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Registered: 10-26-2005
In reply to: gwen227
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 11:12am
Can you have it taken out of his pay check?The first time my stbx told me he didnt have the money to pay cs because he didnt have enough after paying his bills and im sure going out to the bars with gf I called my attorney and he filed papers and now it is taken right out of his pay and I get a check directed deposited right into my checking account.It makes me so angry that they think they can leave and not even have to help support their own kids.I agree it is ridiculous what the courts let them get by with paying for cs and I would like to see them support their kids on that.Good luck I have been been through it as im sure many others have.
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Registered: 01-29-2005
In reply to: gwen227
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 8:17pm

Unfortunately for me he has no "real" paycheck. He does freelance graphic art and I have no real way of knowing how much he even earns let alone garnish his wages.

Thanks for the support, dev. I'll make it, I just get frustrated sometimes.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: gwen227
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 12:41am

I feel ya!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-29-2005
In reply to: gwen227
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 12:08am

Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate you listening to me complain. Today things escalated with STBX and the skank and I had to tell him that I am not interested in forming a relationship with her as a coparent. That he needs to deal with me, instead of her and I always talking. This fight stemmed from her having the balls to confront me today on an issue I had with her but that he and I needed to discuss. (The issue has to do with her driving with our kids in the car, and the fact that she recently just had the second of two major accidents in 8 months.)

While he and I talked and he wasn't getting it, all I could think of was "I was so right for divorcing his sorry butt".

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Registered: 01-13-2004
In reply to: gwen227
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 8:44am

I have to admit, that would make me just as mad! It's amazing isn't it? I always wonder where my STBX's priorities are, everyone else, including the OW, always come before the kids. I just don't get that.

I'm sorry you're having bad days, heck, my whole week has been a nightmare! Some days I wish I could just "poof" him gone forever!!!! And the whole thing with the OW sends me over the edge too.

Hang in there and know you're not alone.
Hugs,
Jennifer

Jennifer

Proud Mom of Travis (15) and Mandi (10)

and our pets, Sully the Dog and Till