The Guy is Crazy
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| Mon, 08-01-2005 - 9:23am |
I just want to thank everyone for posting to my message yesterday. The support really means a lot to me.
First, yes, my ex is a huge drinker. When he drinks, his mood alters a great deal and he becomes even more violent than he would be without being intoxicated. I have a feeling he is on drugs, but then again, I can't prove it.
The guy I'm dating was very upset yesterday, and with good reason. He has tried to stay out of my situation...it's not his place, you know. But, my ex completely made it his place when he hurt my bf's mother.
He called him yesterday...and had a "chat." My ex has backed off for the most part. He's good at bullying people who really can't defend themselves against him, but not at people who can. I don't know if he got the message my new guy was sending or not...but I haven't received another harrassing call from him since 4AM Sunday.
I don't think an RO is going to do the trick in this case. The last time it only made things worse. Plus, I had to go before a judge who is a family friend of my ex inlaws who didn't believe me in the first place. I'm getting a new lawyer...one that helps people with lower incomes. Maybe he can help me or do something for me. My other sure isn't doing anything!
All I do know is is that I have to protect my dd and myself in some way. I'm not sending her back to him....even if they hold me in contempt of court, which is what I was told they would do. But how can they if the divorce papers haven't even been signed by the judge yet?!
I'm stressed and I'm rambling now...sorry all! But thanks for listening and caring!
Lots of Hugs to everyone,
Kait

Hiya Kait,
Just do what is right for you and your DD. Maybe your new lawyer can get the judge changed, because the other judge sounds less than impartial.
Good luck to you, and stay safe!
Susie
Hey, Kaitlyn, I'm glad to hear you're still holding it together. You're a powerhouse to have overcome this much resistance. ITA with Susie's suggestion about getting the judge recused. He should have removed himself from the case.
I'm going to gently push this - have you contacted the STATE police? Again, I don't know if you're in the US. If so try the main office of the state police, not a local office, and ask for a trained domestic violence officer. They're there among other reasons to help you skirt the local in-crowd.
Very best of luck to you and big hugs.
<< ITA with Susie's suggestion about getting the judge recused. He should have removed himself from the case. >>
At the very LEAST, I would imagine that there is a strong conflict of interest if the judge is friends with her X's family...