Had the talk...

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Had the talk...
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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 8:12pm

It went better than expected. My son (who is the exact age of the girlfriend's son) was excited. My DD (nearly 11) was less so, but not as devestated as I thought she'd be. She seemed almost numb. Maybe it's her age or maybe I made this into a drama it didn't need to be earlier this week, but I told them what was up in a very happy and positive way. After Abe said "Woo hoo!" my daughter rolled her eyes. I asked her if she was as excited at all and she said, "No, this sounds like the lamest visit ever.". Then she said she didn't want to talk about it anymore. Later when I was making dinner she said, "But I thought Dad was living alone." and I told her I did too, but that this was working out for him. I was so nervous that she'd be hysterical and ask me why he didn't want her to live with him, but she didn't say it. I have a feeling she's thinking it though. So far no threats of not going and that has me relieved too. Three more weeks and they're off, it's so hard to believe. Now I have to hammer out the YMCA childcare. In the midst of the girlfriend son stuff, I called the number he gave me to ask them what medical forms they needed for my son who has a life threatening allergy and the kids are NOT registered. Ack...

Melanie

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 9:45pm

Does your daughter want to live with her father? I'm a little confused by that statement.

Anyhow that's a bit annoying that he hasn't registered the children at the Y I thought he told you they were going there during the day. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR...

*sigh*

It's good that your son is excited to meet her son, that is good news...your daughter is a little older and in that preteen age group so it might be expected for her age that she knows better. Too bad it couldn't have all gone a little smoother...good luck with the Y.

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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 8:05am


If I may, Mel....


I think Melanie was concerned that her daughter would be upset that her dad lives with another child, but rarely ever sees her.


And to Mel....In the end, I am sure the visit will work out just fine. You've been doing all the background work that you need to. Now, we just have to cross our fingers and hope for the best.




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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 9:39am

Oh duh...LOL not that she wants to go live with her dad but kind of like Why isn't it okay that I live with dad but its okay that someone elses kid does. I get it now. Okay...you know I do have a college degree but sometimes I can be a bit slow I guess it was the way it was worded I wasn't quite grasping it. LOL

Thanks justice...can I blame it on how early it was? LOL

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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 9:49am


Heck yeah, you sure can! That's why I usually do ;)




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Sun, 05-28-2006 - 1:23pm

Yes, Christine said it much better than I did! Thank you both! LOL. My DD has on occaision threatened to go live with her dad, but that is always out of anger and retracted soon afterward. I was mostly worried that the kids would be jealous that their dad left, moved out of state, hardly calls and rarely sees them, but he lives with another kid.

Mel

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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 6:38pm

Just cathcing up and chiming in a bit late..... I'm glad that it went well... and hope that it still is going well.


I'll keep sending you good vibes.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 7:19pm

Oh my, I haven't updated this board. On Friday, soon after I posted how our talk went, we rushed my son to the ER. He had to have emergency surgery to have his appendix removed! WOW! Just when I thought I couldn't fit anything else into my life BOOM! LOL. It took over 24 hours, two messages and an e-mail to get a response from my ex. He's so irresponsible. Sigh... I am really nervous about the visit, but I'm moving forward.

Melanie

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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 7:32pm

Oh my goodness Melanie!!!!


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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 8:19pm

OMGoodness Mel... how freaking scary... I hope that your son is healing well and that all is better with him... as for your x, well, he's joining the ranks of some other stbx/x's on this board... how ridiculous for him not to respond to your emergency messages!

*hugs*

Julie